Home is more than four walls and roof. Home is a door opening to you, your family, your pets, your lifestyle, your neighborhood, your community, your city. It’s all encompassing on so many levels.
Love Shack Baby!
Cohabitating is not the easiest, no matter how much you love your person…
There you are, minding your own business and then they walk into the room. They walk towards you—cue slo-mo. You sheepishly bat those lashes, they confidently go in for the kiss. You smile and then quickly reject potential kiss to present the pile of dishes in the sink they forgot to do this morning before leaving for work. Not today sweety, not today.
This is just a typical scene of couples cohabitating. ANYONE who says it’s so easy to live with someone else is either a liar or has found some long lost unicorn in some foreign land. Rainbows aside, living together takes finesse, patience, and boundaries. Buying or renting a home together also has its various challenges. So let’s explore.
The Six Month Rule
In high school, my psych teacher taught me a valuable lesson (thanks, Mr. Pillow). Every relationship changes at six months. Six months is the period where you are contemplating a life with this person. It is the time when the infatuation ends and the observations begin. It’s when you’ll notice everything from the way they sip their coffee to the way they manage their money. Keep this in mind for later…
Your Place or Mine?
As time rolls and the relationship becomes deeper with sleepovers becoming more frequent, the “Let’s live together” convo happens. This is a crucial part of the relationship and where things become wide open. it’s mostly justified in financial terms, saving money and all, but it also comes down to not wanting to be apart from your person for too long. So comes the decision on who will be cohabitating with whom. This is where you consider the size of a place, the location, and the ability to house pets. Do they own or do they rent? It gets a bit risky in this instance.
My House, My Rules
If you are moving in with someone who owns their own place, there are some things you should know. They have a routine, a home routine. They aren’t used to having your dirty laundry mixed in with theirs or your soy milk inhabiting the fridge. You might like to wake up at 5am for Yoga Sundays at the foot of the bed and they might like late night hangs with their guests at home. Be aware of these things and open up that communication when considering living in someone else’s home. Love or not, this can be a deal breaker situation. I’ve seen many a relationship fall apart over spilt toothpaste and leaving just one slice of bread in the bag. Talk about everything from eating habits to cleaning routines to cultural routines (there must be rice in the house at all times!)
(Our) House
This scenario entails a relationship that is potentially in it to win it. You’ve been dating almost a year, and they had planned on buying a home. Are you to be buying with them or will they become your landlord? I’ve seen a few couples go through this—they are both renting, one has plans to buy, the other can’t buy. due to low credit or inconsistent job history. It can be sticky because it’s not just a committed relationship, but a committed financial and transactional relationship. Sure, you can hear the wedding bells in a far off distance, but you’re also still considering the “what ifs”.
To the person buying the house, I’m going to go with my mom’s advice—always be prepared for the worst case scenario. I’ve seen some pretty ugly breakups and there can be challenges depending on what type of agreement you have. This is also a conversation to be had, hard or not, you don’t want to a) get stuck with a mortgage you can’t possibly pay on your own, b) have an ugly court battle, or c) have to give up the house all together. Always have a contract between you. I know it’s not the most romantic endeavor, but it is one that will keep you and your heart safe. Look, I’m rooting for you here, but remember communication is key in every relationship, in addition to reality checks.
Crossing the Threshold
“The average cost of a wedding in 2021 was $28,000 (including the ceremony and reception), according to The Knot's 2021 Real Weddings Study.” - Nerdwallet
That’s more than a downpayment most times. I think this is solid advice, and coming from someone who paid $25K for their first wedding. If I had to go back, I would opt for owning a home. Couples just starting out, be smart—do you want to begin wedded bliss in debt or would you rather start building some equity together? Think about what a wedding means to you and whether having an extravagant affair trumps having your very own home. In addition, think of the money you will be saving for the possible wedding of your dreams. Put a ring on it and build for your future together.
Happily Ever After
No matter how you decide to cohabitate, the wisest advice I can give is to talk to each other about what living together will look like. Discuss everything from who will take the dog out to the tourettes you seem to get while sleeping. As I said, it is not easy living with someone you love, sometimes more difficult than family. Have plans, make cohabitation contracts, respect each other’s space, and love and be loved where you live. Happy Hunting!
Trekking Solo
Solo traveling can be fun, rewarding, and an exploration to a new place and yourself.
The month of February can be brutal for some. Some us who don’t wish to celebrate a Hallmark inspired holiday, glorifying how unloved we feel. So, from someone who has been through that, I would like to suggest falling in love—with a trip. I find traveling to be the remedy for heartbreak, like, go fall in love with a place not a person. The rewards will be better than any candlelit dinner or chocolates, I promise.
What I like about solo travel is that it opens you up to possibilities rather than adhere you to someone else’s itinerary or mood swings. Whether you choose to commune with nature or go for a foreign jaunt, traveling alone is liberating, rewarding, and gives you time to get to know yourself. Are you ready?
Pick a Destination. Make it fun, put all your bucket list destinations in a hat (mind you, just put those that fit your current budget), and choose!
Timing. Pick your date. Do you have to take time off of work? How long do you want to go for? Make sure you don’t have anything planned during that time like an upcoming wedding or shower.
Plan. Now that you have a destination, consider it’s locality. What are your necessities? How will you travel? Do you need inoculations or passports?
Book. Book your transportation, your lodgings, your restaurants, and any museums/events you plan on doing. This will save you standing in line or missing out on a wishlist item. AirBnB’s have been the best lodging experience I’ve had traveling unless you know someone where you are going. This allows you to get to know a neighborhood, meet someone local, and save money on food and lodging.
Research. Create a Google map and pin all the places you would like to see on your trip, even those you may not get to. Moods change. Make sure you see how walkable it is from your lodging or what the transportation options are (taxis, Ubers, trains, busses)
See Off-the-Beaten Path Stuff. Don’t be a tourist, check out some unconventional things and gain a new experience. Listen to the locals, talk with them, they always have cool suggestions.
Learn the Language. If you are traveling abroad learn a few phrases before going. DuoLingo is great for this. Things like, “Do you speak English?”, “Where is the bathroom?” “I’m lost, can you help me?”, and how to order food and drink are big ones. Most places, you will find English speakers, but ALWAYS be considerate to other people’s culture and language, that includes within the states (yes, Southerners and Yanks do things differently). We now have apps that can help you like Google translate.
Dressing. The biggest advice for packing is don’t pack too much. You’ll wear less than half the clothes you bring. Don’t forget these:
Mix-and-match ensembles will make your luggage lighter and give you the ability to buy something there if you wish.
A dress up look with shoes or a day-to-night look. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve been out all day and then I get invited to a dinner with no time to go back and dress.
Dudes, bring a dinner jacket (nothing says American like shorts and flip flops)
Don’t forget the bathing suit for hotel pools, rivers/lakes, and hot tubs.
Weather appropriate clothes.
A comfortable bag you can walk around with. I suggest cross body bags to deter any places with pickpockets.
Get Lost. If you are traveling in a city, take a day off and get lost. Sometimes not having a plan will help you discover real beauty or stumble across a treasure. DO NOT plan too many things in a day, give time for rests or just chilling.
Journal. Write about your travels, what you see, what you ate, who you met. I promise it is the most rewarding thing to go back years ahead and read about your experience. It is unique to you and others will be able to share in that experience.
Ladies. If you do travel solo, always be aware of your surroundings and know where you are. Once again do research. There is a great blog for you solo lady travelers called I Am AiLeen. Tell someone where you are going in case you are going a la “off grid”.
Check Your Vehicle. If you are traveling by car, make sure to get a checkup before you leave. Check the oil, tire pressure, bring a gas container, check your windshield wipers, and brakes.
Eat. Be adventurous. I hated olives until I went to Spain. Pickled herring is also not as bad as it sounds. Try all the local famous foodstuffs.
Do a Tour. I am not a fan of guided tours, but one which is customized to your interests or a smaller group is the way to go. You’ll learn a lot more from it. If you happen to go to Paris, I highly suggest paying the money to go on a tour with Art Journey, this isn’t your parent’s guided tour.
Go on a Date. Yeah, I said it. Get on that dating app and find someone who can give you a first hand tour of where you are, no-strings-attached. Be up front about it, have fun with it. You might make new friends!
Lastly, here are some essential items to bring on your trip:
Umbrella or Raincoat
Always bring a Jacket!
A First Aid Kit
Comfortable and Supportive Shoes
Medications (although they are cheaper outside the US)
Adapters if traveling outside the country
Wireless phone charger
The hardest thing for a lot of people is to do things by themselves, especially after a breakup. Traveling will allow you to do this easily because you are distracted by the sites and sounds of something new. Your date with a new destination will be your honeymoon for one and frankly, sometimes the best dates are about exploring a new canvas. Happy Travels!
Establishing Trust
Being prepared for upcoming battles and establishing future plans.
I’m going to get a little personal here, but I think it’s good information for all those going through the same thing. Recently, a family member was diagnosed with dementia. This person is totally of sound mind right now, but we’ve run into some snags along this process. One being, they have only one child, and that child, as horrific as it may be, has decided that they want no part in their parent’s short or long term care leaving that responsibility to other members of the family.
This person is now dealing with a serious challenge(s) and it got me to thinking about how it will all resolve upon the worsening of their condition. They have no plan in place for one thing. This person is well into their 70s and with the assumption that their spawn would take care of them, is now left to their own devices. No will. No long term care plan. No real money to get them the help they might need once their faculties decline. So, now I think about my own parents, and myself for that matter. My parents are completely prepared for their final curtain calls, much to my guilt as their child. As I approach mid-century existence, it prompted me to yet again, read the fine print of adulthood, the next phase. I mean, who doesn’t want to take care of their moms and pops when they can’t do it themselves any longer? Isn’t it our responsibility as their children to take the reins on this and how many of us can feasibly do this? I save this for another discussion, back to it…
My family member is combatting the end of their independence which can be devastating, not to mention the denial aspect of the sickness to begin with. They sit on a 1500+ sq ft home on a double corner lot in a very desired school district. No power of attorney identified and no desire to leave their home. They are starting to have a hard time remembering where things are—ie. the deed to the house. The responsibility for their medical has been established, but what of their assets? It’s a legit concern and one I think about for not only my parents, but myself. It’s not always going to be us they choose.
Estate planning was never on my radar, but I have an Attorney friend who specializes in this type of law, and I was able to get some good tips about some simple ways to do this. Incidentally, when I thought about “estate”, it leads me to think of someone who has many assets or a wealthy state of being, but I’ve learned that this is not really the case most times. It’s about being prepared for the unexpected. The best thing to do is plan ahead and find a local attorney who can guide you through the process with ease to save you time, money, and familial emotional upheaval.
Here are the key points:
Establish a Living Trust. Wills aren’t always effective plans when distributing assets. It’s recommended to do a Living Trust, which basically means the beneficiaries you name in your living trust receive the trust property when you die and you can manage it while you are still living without the process of probate.
What is this probate you speak of? Probate is the official proving and recording of the will as the authentic and valid last will and testament of the deceased. It is time consuming, can be costly, and messy.
Establish a Fiduciary. This person can be a trusted family member. They will manage your assets and financials when you cannot. Make sure you put everything from the phone bill to your insurance on the list. Listing your assets and assigning them is also a good way to be prepared.
Establish Beneficiaries. These will be the individuals or the estate itself that will benefit from your assets. Be specific and everything from insurance policies to the dog should be assigned.
Establish Power of Attorney. This one is important, especially if you become unexpectedly incapacitated mentally. They will help you manage your financial and medical decisions when you cannot, but will also save a family member from an arduous process. If something unexpected happens to you and you, what are your wishes for your property? Sell, rent, pass along to a family member, etc.
Hire an Attorney who will guide you. Attorneys that specialize in this realm will help you save time and money. They will also help you establish your estate in a more private atmosphere.
For more information, feel free to check out some FREE information on Mr. Nance’s website, he has some good tips to follow.
Wait, What Day is it?
Has procrastination gift giving got you down? Stressed about the upcoming shopping marathon? Don’t worry, I’ve got a few things that will put some ease into your last minute shopping ideas and support RVA!
It gets harder and harder each year to make those last minute holiday gift ideas happen. I decided to share some of my local favorites to consider for your gift giving ideas that are unique, thoughtful and most of all support our local RVA businesses. Have a peek…
Coffee, Tea, and Libations
The most important part of waking up is some high octane coffee in your cup. Everyone drinks, but not everyone partakes or wants to partake in adult beverages so check these out.
Local Coffee Gift Boxes from Color Wheel Coffee or Blanchards. Both also have subscription services to consider as a nice stress free gift idea. Some people would rather drink tea while spilling the Tea and a really nice “group” gift to get is some time in the T-Caf tea room. If you are looking for something to satisfy those who decided 2023 will be a sobering experience, you can put a nice gift basket with elixirs, bitters, and flavorful N/A beer choices from Ceremony or Point 5.
Baked Goods
RVA has so many good bakeries, but I will say I have discovered some fantastic new local delectables. Who doesn’t love a sweet treat every once in a while? My favorites are all self-starter, female owned businesses who launched their brick and mortars after success during Covid. I cannot say enough about Ellyn Hopper’s Fat Rabbit. She’s innovative and creates absolutely delectable goods. Veteran, Author, and Women’s Advocate, Rebekah Lynn Pierce owns Maggie’s Cupcake Cafe. She makes the most yummy goodies that will remind you of grandma’s house on Sundays. Her pies are on point! She delivers the goods and does it with a smile! Lastly, hair stylist turned baker and badass Mom, Chastity Hise along with husband, Russell opened Pies and Cakes bringing the sweet and the savory. Who doesn’t love cake and pizza! All these are worth the order and who couldn’t use a little help during special occasions? It’s a sweet gift to give friends, co-workers, and clients!
Hair Joy
Look, getting your hair done is always a fun thing. Who doesn’t love going to get pampered and then looking fantastic after? You can’t go wrong with a gift certificate to their favorite barber or hair salon. I suggest the ladies over at Rooted Hair Company, Miss Kai Block is my favorite colorist in town! A fun cut for them from Carrie at Gorilla Hair Garage is a great way to give them a fresh look, she does great kid cuts too! Guys, going to the barber can be a good time for you too, get them a nice cut and shave from Barber Of Hell’s Bottom or Mike Blendz’s.
Sassy Sauce
Now I am privileged to know some amazing chefs in town and also people who just know good flavor when they taste and make it. A really great stocking stuffer or a gift that keeps on giving are my sauce guys, Justin Cropper of Espoleta RVA and SoSS owner Tommy Tyrell know how to bring the flavor with their signature hot sauces. They have both worked real hard to bring their condimental creations to the masses.
Artful Sentiments
RVA has the MOST talented artists. Why not give them something unique and special, made just for them? Katie McBride is one of my favorites and she does RVAcentric pieces. Alix Petrie’s pieces are fun to get lost in and will look good in any home. You can find some of her artwork now at Eric Schindler Gallery. Get them some session time with Mia Artz Photography. What a great gift to give to those wanting to capture a moment in time and for a real wow experience, check out Melody Smith Portrait Gift Vouchers. I cannot tell you how amazing they will feel or opt for a couples portrait and create an heirloom piece for your home and family. And lastly, Dave Moore has always been a favorite of mine and his dreamlike art will look fantastic in any office or home space.
Experiences
I love giving experiences to my giftees. From cooking lessons to jumping out of planes, gifts that create memories are always great. Consider giving them some time at the wheel at Clayground Studio, they can make their own gifts or just enjoy a fun time creating and learning. Music lessons from a menagerie of musicians in the city, including Bravo Music Academy. Dance lessons are always fun too! Gift Certificates are always available at most locations. The Salsa Guy can teach anyone how to shake those hips! Maybe look into the AirBnB experiences or if they are on the cosmic side of things, a natal chart or tarot reading is affordable and fun. Season tickets to The Richmond Kickers is a great way for them to hang out with the locals and cheer their team to victory! Concert tickets are always fun to get as well!
Not Sure?
Yes, sometimes it’s tough, but sometimes the simplest things are the best gifts. I love a GC for my favorite grocery store. Give them some luck by getting them a FREE Rewards Card to Rosie’s Gaming and a $20 credit. Check out local gift shops like Alma’s RVA and Brookland Park Flowers and Gifts or Mongrel in Carytown.
Obviously these are just a few suggestions for last minute gifts. The most important thing is that while thinking about giving gifts, think about gifting RVA with your support for the local businesses in our beautiful city. I’ve seen so many “CLOSED” signs around town, it breaks my heart. So, let’s support our own and help these small business stay around a lot longer. Good shopping to you and happy holidays!
The Schizzo Market
To be a recession or not to be…that is the question of the hour.
I was scratching my head thinking about what I was going to write about this month. So many of my clients, friends, and acquaintances ask me about the market. Currently the market is an unpredictable schizophrenic and truth be told, I’ve always known it as being highly competitive, multiple offer situations, and disheartened buyers walking way in tears because $100K over is too rich for their blood—and mine.
We’ve had this very strong, very long lasting market, but as with all things, change is inevitable. We are seeing drastic dives in home sales, the 24 hour sale is becoming a little sluggish, and the question of are or aren’t we in a recession is prevalent. It’s all connected, from the war in Ukraine to the record high eviction rates to the pandemic, we’re now playing tug of war.
Housing prices aren’t lowering that’s for sure and demand is still up there. Inventory is getting a little better, as we are seeing more listings pop up. Yes, folks, those Realtor letters filling your mailbox is no mistake. It’s an ideal situation for all those moving out of RVA or downsizing, but you first timers are feeling the sting of your outbidded tears still.
The best advice I can give to any first time home buyer is patience. If you can’t buy right, open up a savings account and stick it all in there and continue to build those funds because this won’t last forever and interest rates will lower again. What I find helpful in these times is to talk to lenders. The money people have great ways to guide and also give great information on what’s happening on their end.
Two of my most recommended lenders are Mark Horton and Octavio Wilson. Mark knows his stuff and is very good about informing clients and Octavio is equally as good, but with my Spanish speakers. Mark has a podcast that is proving to be quite informational and also a way to ask questions without the commitment of sitting in an office when you are unsure about what you are doing. Check out his videos and feel free to reach out to him or my other preferred lender, Olivia Smith and plan, plan, plan. Then come talk to me and I’ll do the rest!
Check out and subscribe to Mark’s podcast:
Robble, Robble!
Celebrating #NationalBurgerMonth with my RVA mouthwatering picks!
Photo by Jo Ann Breaux
When I was a kid, fast food was a divine treat. To get a Happy Meal from McDonald’s felt like your last class being Study Hall. But, in all honesty, my mom’s pan fried burgers were better than what Ronald had to offer. It was the first real meal she taught me how to make, and I, to be humbly honest, I make a pretty damn good burger…I think. The burger fits in that perfect foods list, the one that includes pizza, pasta, and tacos. Besides, who doesn’t have a nostalgic moment with a burger?
Now that I’m grown up, my burger palate has broadened, but not that much. I’m pretty simple when it comes to my ‘all beef patty, special sauce, lettuce, cheese’. For me, I want a burger that has quality protein, a good bread source, and varied cheese options. Sometimes I like a spinach, brie and bacon combo and other times I’ll go more traditional with cheddar, bacon and pickles. I like my lettuce shredded and I think mayo on a patty dulls it, not to mention I’m just not a fan of mayo on sandwiches. I do love a good dill or spicy relish, and I’m a fan of thinner burgers vs thicker ones.
Now that you know my burger dating profile, I’d like to share some of my favorite RVA burger joints to celebrate #NationalBurgerMonth. Bon appetit!
Beauvine
(Vegan/Vegetarian options available)
What I like about Beauvine is the quality of meat they use and their nostalgic resemblance to Dumont burger in Brooklyn (oh how I miss you!). They have tasty sauces like Béarnaise and Herbed Aioli and them duck fat fries are so good! Yes, they do have Vegetarian options and excellent service to boot. I love going in here getting a delicious burger, fries and the ROSTOV’S FRENCH ROAST COFFEE milkshake and spectating a soccer match on the telly.
Indian Fields Tavern
I got an inside scoop on this one and decided to check it out. I love this place all around, but the burger is delicious with a capital D! Listen to some acoustics on the lawn and enjoy their Charles City burger with bacon jam and double cream brie…holy hell it’s good. One of my favorite burgers and places to spend the afternoon.
Cobra Cabana
(Vegan/Vegetarian options available)
So it’s not a traditional burger persae, but a more abstract version. The Chopped Cheese does it for me. I had no idea of this NY originated sandwich which makes me shameful to my living there, but CC delivers this hearty, cheesy goodness on a perfectly grilled baguette. The hot dill relish is where it’s at! Add some fries and wash it down with a beer…heaven!
The Roosevelt
I have loved this cheeseburger since Roosevelt opened up their doors in 2011. I don’t know if it’s the bacon jam or the crafted cocktails that enhance this double pattied delight, but it’s a solid choice that makes sitting at the bar in a pretty environment, an burgerific experience.
Kreggers at Hand
(Vegan/Vegetarian options available)
I am pleasantly surprised by Kreggers. Their burger is always consistently good and I love the variety of options they have. They keep it simple, but still with some twists. A burger special on Tuesday for $8 is choice and even if the vibe there doesn’t do it for me, the staff is always super nice.
Patrick Henry Pub & Grille
(Vegan/Vegetarian options available)
PH makes a solid burger in a cool environment (check out the gem of the patio upstairs). You want burger with that bourbon? No problem. I like they have a variety of sauces to choose from and it’s just a solid bite you can have when you need something to absorb the alcohol and the darkness the basement pub provides.
Carytown Burgers and Fries
(Vegan/Vegetarian options available)
It’s always been my favorite. When I want something that is going to fill me up and leave me slumped and sleeping on the couch, it’s CBF with a side of Tater Tots. Solidly consistent and you can also get a side of milkshake with that!
Shake Shack
(Vegan/Vegetarian options available)
Milkshakes, Crinkle Fries, and a hangover cure for the masses, Shake Shack is Grade A yum . I know it’s not here yet, but after five years of standing in line in Bryant Park in New York salivating over my lunch breaks, I am quite certain this will be my fast food burger spot. We all have those, you know when you just need something to help you take your afternoon nap and you don’t want to stand in line for brunch. It will be like seeing a long lost lover after being separated for years. Shake Shack burgers are addictive and an unforgettable morsel.
These are just some of my favorites in RVA. I’m sure there are plenty that I have yet to discover! Feel free to comment on your favorite spots!
Making Moves
Moving can be the biggest headache, but it doesn’t have to be with these great tips!
I have lived in 27 places in my life. That’s a lot of moves. Each move I lost something, each move I broke something, and each move I acquired something new. Let’s be honest, moving sucks. It’s usually hot and as you get older, your friends seem to take vacation on that very date. The only time I loved moving was when the company that hired me to move back to Virginia packed up my stuff and delivered it to my new loft apartment. That was golden, but those other 26 moves were brutal.
This month is #NationalMovingMonth and it’s the busiest moving month of the year. Here are some crucial tips to help you get moving (in particular order).
Get Rid of It! The very first thing you need to do is PURGE. Get rid of anything you haven’t used in 5-10 years. You’re not going to miss it, I promise. Donate to your local church or Goodwill or have yourself a garage sale and make some extra dough. Also purge your fridge, throw away anything close to it’s expiration date or has exceeded it.
Boxes. If you are going to use recycled ones, make sure they are those boxes that your office paper come in or boxes from the ABC Store. These, I find work the best., but make sure to keep them as uniform as possible. Otherwise, buy in bulk and consider specialty boxes for TVs and artwork.
Order your moving company or line up those friends with trucks. Make sure you confirm dates and book in advance. These guys get busy quick and if you are hiring a friend, make sure there won’t be any last minute ditches, give them plenty of time to plan it all out. Get several different quotes and see if you have discounts like AAA.
Pack room by room. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve mixed the bathroom with the kitchen and I’m unpacking spatulas in the bathtub. Label all your boxes clearly and make sure FRAGILE is in big bold red marker! Make inventory lists per box and tape them to the box if you want to get real Type A about it.
Heavy items like books go on the bottom. Pack heavier items in smaller boxes and lighter ones in larger boxes.
Wrap your glass items carefully. I like to actually use towels/linens for this and to use to fill in empty gaps with the same to keep things from moving around.
Pack a bag with clean clothes, essentials, and important docs. Who knows when you’ll be able to get to these after a move.
Practice Tetris. Seriously, outlining the back of your moving truck can help save time and energy and help you organize things. Just get some tape and map out your measurements in your house.
Keep Clothes on Hangers. You would think it would be easier to take your clothes off of hangers and pack them, but leave them on the hangers, rubber band them in groups and slip over garbage bags to protect them. Voila!
Make sure you schedule your utilities. You don’t want to be moving in the dark or not be able to take a much needed hot shower.
Invest in bubble and shrink wrap!
Make sure you take the shades off of lamps, legs off of tables, and remove drawers.
Invest in a dolly and ramp, it will help your back and save you time. Consider making a ramp to get heavy objects upstairs. Physics, people, physics!
Make sure all toiletries are tightly closed and ziplocked. Not fun finding shampoo all over your box of facial creams and hairbrushes.
Pack small things in empty containers like pots. This is a space saver!
Here is a big one and one I did on my last move. Take photos of your electronic setups. TRUST ME, you do not want to hook up your speakers to your router. In addition to this, wires should be neatly wrapped and labeled. I found this really cool hack that will keep them all organized and easy to pack.
Early morning moves are more encouraged. Get it done and over so you can sit in the AC and unpack. Once that sun gets going, it gets harder. Of course we can’t always choose when we are going to move. If you look at the forecast and it’s going to rain on moving day, you might want to pack up a few days earlier.
HYDRATE! Make sure you and your team are hydrated and also, if your friend is helping you out, make sure they are taken care of with food and drinks.
What are some of your favorite moving tips? Feel free to share in the comments section. If you have an exceptional agent (ahem), they will set things up for you and give you good recommendations on moving companies. Some, even will provide their own moving truck for your convenience. No matter what your move entails, welcome to a new beginning!
Celebrating National Brunch Month
Celebrating National Brunch Month in RVA!
Brunch is probably my favorite meal of the day. To be honest, I can do brunch any time, any day, any week. Sometimes I want to just wake up with a tub of coffee and not eat until I’m hangry, which is around 10:30am. I used to miss Saturday New York brunches, and don’t get me wrong, I still do, but it’s nice that I can get one now in RVA. Heritage was the best Brunch I’ve had in town and I hope it comes back, until then, check out these ten choice spots:
NOTE: All photos were taken from their respective restaurant sites.
SB’s Lakeside Loveshack
Now with two locations (Lakeside & The Fan), this RVA spot is the jam (yes they serve that too). It’s kid friendly, the staff is excellent and the food hits the right spots, and the best theme ever.
Millie’s Diner
Opened Wed-Sunday, this RVA institution ranks high on everyone’s list. Be prepared to wait your turn, but the result is pure delight. Millie’s never disappoints when it comes to their brunch items or their daily specials (the biscuits and gravy are divine).
821 Cafe
If I want to feel at home, I go to 821 where I know everyone is going to treat me and my family well. This is my hangover cure brunch spot and they make a decent Bloody Mary. I also like that they have plentiful Vegetarian/Vegan options.
Kuba Kuba
You want something that is going to make you feel all warm and fuzzy? Kuba Kuba has one of the best brunches in RVA. The Roast Pork Omelet is on point and the portions here are plentiful. Pair it up with a Cafe con Leche and leave room for the Tres Leches, you’ll be rolled out accordingly.
Helen’s
Another RVA fave, Helen’s brunch is perfect and if you’re lucky to sit outside the people watching doesn’t disappoint (Hello, Walk-of-shamers!). Simple, Southern, and Delicious!
Partarre
This little hidden gem is a delight. Don’t want to stand at Perly’s? Check out this nestled yumfest at the Linden Row Inn. Get you a seat outside and enjoy the quaint and tranquil environment. The food is also delectable.
The Jefferson Champagne Brunch
Looking for something a bit more extravagant? You gotta do it at least once, if you can get a reservation. Perfect for moms and special occasions, this is a fun treat with a beautiful setting. Love their waffle station and so much to choose from!
Metzger Bar & Butchery
I have nothing but good things to say about Metzger. If you want to up your brunch game, this is the place to be. You are guaranteed to not only have a superb brunchtail, but you will not be disappointed by the brunchfare served here. So good.
Lunch.Supper.
I’m thankful I can still get brunch at lunch or supper. This place has always been a favorite of mine. I’ve always been a fan of their breakfast sandwich. The staff has always been kind and I love their Bloody Mary’s. Grab a seat outside and it can be a quite pleasant brunch spot. Afterwards, you can tour Scott’s Addition’s breweries.
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Give me that Limeaid! Lots of options and kid friendly, I love the old school vibe here. I’ve never had a bad brunch here and the food is great!
Listing Commandment: Thou Shall Update
Updating your home will add the most value to it’s sale. Put a little elbow grease and reap the rewards…
When I go on a Listing appointment, I have to be honest with my clients. If I were one myself, I surely wouldn’t want my agent to skirt around issues that may not be helpful in selling my house. Depending on the age and lived in status of your home, I usually suggest “improvements” to add value to your sale. Look, I know you don’t like homework. I get it, all you want to do is sell your house with minimal efforts and move on. As with all things this big in life, it is always good to plan ahead.
Kitchens and Bathrooms. It’s the two things in a home that most people pay the closest attention to when buying a house. They can be costly renovations from anywhere of $15K and upward. Any renovation can put a strain on your wallet, but some quick and simple amendments to your home can change the overall value of it. So ask yourself, do you want to get the greatest value for your home? I’d say, “duh”.
Here are a few suggestions to help enhance your home sale:
Painting is easy, a fresh coat of neutral paint goes a long way!
Radiators. If your radiators are no longer usable. Drain them and get rid of them. This will add space and ability to switch furniture around.
Windows. If you have any non functioning or broken windows, go ahead and replace them. This tends to show up on appraisal reports.
Update Light Fixtures. Take out those “boob” lights and replace them with modern chandeliers or pendant lights. If you have rooms that don’t have overhead lighting, seek to add it.
Repairs. If the toilet is broken, have it fixed. If you know of a roof leak, have it repaired. If little Johnny put his foot in the wall while pretending to be a Thundercat, mend it. If there are lights without bulbs or don’t work, fix it. Damage or non-working fixtures that will cause a buyer’s eye to wander can be easily replaced.
Borders. You bought in the 90’s and you never got rid of that kitchen floral border. My mom has this in three different rooms, I told her to remove it already!
Wallpaper. Wallpaper is a pretty chic addition these days, but if your wallpaper is from the 70’s giving you flashbacks of Aunt Mabel’s Jello casserole, you may want to get rid of it.
Carpet. If there are hardwoods, expose them. You can easily check this by simply pulling up a corner using a butter knife. I cannot tell you how many houses I show where buyers ask if there is hardwood underneath. If it was a newish installed carpet, have them steam cleaned. If you have dull looking hardwoods, have them refinished to give it a whole new refresh.
Dated Appliances and Systems. Find stainless at the Scratch n’ Dent or Marketplace, or you can check out some local estate sales and find some gently used ones. Replace old (15+ years) Heating and cooling systems as well as water heaters and washer/dryers with updated ones. You don’t want a buyer who enters a freezing cold living room during showings. The more energy efficient the better.
Cabinets. If you don’t replace them, paint them for a quick update. You can also add some nice pulls and handles to give it an extra oomph.
Countertops and Backsplashes. Consider replacing countertops with Quartz or Granite and add a tile backsplash to your kitchen or bathroom to add some color or texture to it.
Bathroom and Kitchen Fixtures. Everything’s coming up brass/gold/black these days, so my suggestion would be to replace faucet, showerheads, towel racks, drawer/cabinet pulls with something elegant and modern. Just make sure it’s cohesive per room.
Source: Houzz
Create a functional foyer. If you have an actual foyer, make it functional. Add a makeshift mudroom, under stairs storage or pet kennel, or simply adding some contrast by battening the walls or adding wallpaper to your stairwell can enliven your entryway.
Add Built-ins. People love a flanked fireplace with built-ins. Consider your space and whether this would be a nice feature to add to your home’s look.
Add a patio or deck. This can be an inexpensive feat that will create an inviting option for potential buyers and add value. Who doesn’t love outdoor entertaining.
Sheds. Simply organizing a workshed to show off space and functionality can be beneficial. If you can recreate it into a home office, that would be highly desirable to a lot of buyers these days.
Other Simple Improvements
Ceiling Fans. If these are dated, replace them with more modern looking ones.
Replace Vinyl Flooring. Adding tile floors to bathrooms and kitchens is always a desired feature.
Knock out a wall. If it’s feasible to create an open space, do it. That particular floor plan has not died out.
Add Shelving. Add shelving to your laundry room if it doesn’t have it. Take out wire shelving in walk-ins and replace it with wooden ones. Gives it a whole other look.
Basements. Consider finishing it off, it’ll add to your square footage and can be marketed easily.
Spruce up your front porch. You want potential buyers to see themselves here and the front being the first impression, sets the mood for the entire showing. Fresh paint, nice seating, add a porch swing, some plants/flowers, update your house numbers, whatever will attract the neighbors for afternoon iced tea is the ticket.
Mailboxes. If your mailbox is falling off or looks like it’s still gets Reader’s Digest, upgrade it. There are many unique and pretty ones out there.
Front Doors. Paint them, it’ll make the front of your house look more attractive.
Landscaping. Mowed and black mulch will create quick and easy curb appeal. Add flowers for full effect.
Lastly, there are many things I ask clients to do before putting their houses on the market that include thinning it out, professional cleanings, stagings, getting rid of personal items, and so forth. It’s how I earn that commission check. A good agent will give you a tasklist and will be available for questions. A good agent also provides trustworthy resources to assist you in prepping your home for sale. Feel free to contact me and I’m happy to do a consult with you regarding the sale of your home.
Street Cred - What's the Plan Stan?
Credit is not always as scary as it seems. Here a few simple steps to improve and understand the importance of it when buying a home.
Credit. I used to fear this word. For me, I used to hear this word and associated it with word like “debt”, “collections”, and “whomp whomp”. Some people have a more positive reaction to credit — discount, trust, Free Man! When I hear my potential clients say, “I have bad credit,” I follow that up with, “Do you know what your credit score is?” to which they reply, “It’s probably pretty bad.”
The point is, most people might think they have bad credit, I for one thought I did for a while, until I bit the bullet and started talking to lenders for my plan to purchase a home. Turns out I actually had decent credit. I think people just get scared when credit scores start to get pulled. I cannot tell you how many collection agencies I had to duck and hide from while in college and early adulting. I say with anything and everything you desire in life, go get it. Make it happen!
Some of you may not even know what a bad or a good credit score looks like or what is looked at when we are talking about the loaning of money. So here are few things you should know when you get started:
Before talking to a lender, pull your own credit score. It’s easy and it will show you what is amiss. You can do it at: https://www.annualcreditreport.com/index.action for free. Know that there is a culmination of three credit reports coming from Experian, TransUnion, and Equifax.
What’s the magic number? You want a credit score of 620 or higher to apply for a loan.
What do I do if I want to improve my score? Pay off debt, even if it’s just a little bit at a time, the activity will improve your score, especially those in delinquent status. Those are first priority.
Do not open new lines of credit or close existing lines of credit, this can hurt your credit score.
Get a savings account. If you are really serious about buying a house, start saving, it’s a good plan of action and will help you with your financial security.
It is a good idea to have some sort of credit when applying for a loan. Get a credit card with a spending limit and use it for gas or groceries and pay it off on time, this will build your credit history.
Pay your bills on time and try and pay more than the minimum payment due on any credit cards.
You are ultimately trying to change your debt-to-income ratio. Decrease your debt, improve your score, have a stockpile for your future down payment. It might take six months or up to a year, depending on your debt, but strive and make a plan so you can enjoy the benefits of home ownership. Good luck and start saving!
If you are ready to take that step, talk to a few lenders that can guide you and help you with your plan. They can answer all your financial questions and help you understand the loan process. Don’t get discouraged and don’t fear the information presented to you. Then you call me and the fun will really begin!
My Beautiful Black Friends
Lady J RVA is celebrating Black History Month with her successful, inspiring and talented RVA friends!
We all know that history in our city runs deep, sometimes controversial, sometimes heroic, and most definitely interwoven into our diverse culture. We have become quite the progressive city over the years and although not the completely “woke” RVA we all see ourselves as, I’d like to think we are getting better.
From historic neighborhoods like Jackson Ward, aka “Black Wall Street”, honoring such greats as Maggie Walker, Charles Russell, and Lucy Goode Brooks to soulful restaurants like Mama J’s to local musicians like Chance Fischer, it cannot be dismissed how much our city is enhanced by African-American culture. So, in that honoring and celebration, I’d just like to point out a few individuals who bring a warm and fuzzy feeling to my world this February.
Photo by Na’eem Douglas
Queon “Q” Martin, CARTER™ Magazine | DNA America | ONE RVA | Soulidify Productions | Artist | Activist
No amount of titles can sum up what this individual is to me. I met Q one evening at a friend’s house. He is a fascinating story, and we quickly became emerged into each other’s worlds in our commonality of our work, art, and life’s vision, not to mention our love of karaoke. Q is one of the most inspiring, kind, and determined people I know. He makes you want to do better, he makes you want to believe in yourself. Although this New York transplant hasn’t lived in RVA very long, he has definitely made a deep mark here, both socially and politically. Capturing and leading the BLM movement here in RVA, educating the masses with his humble, but strong voice through his mediums, and a true creator for change, Q never disappoints with his visual storytelling and unique ideals. We should all be so driven to do better.
Photo by: Dave Parrish
Kelli Lemon, Urban Hang Suite | A1 Minute
Kelli is one of those people you stumble upon and she immediately brings a smile to your face. She is successful, intelligent, and a force to be reckoned with. I met Kelli through a mutual friend and started watching her Coffee with Strangers series and instantly fell in love. I have mad respect for her efforts to bring a community together through the art of conversation. Her coffee house, Urban Hang Suite is a place of warmth, good food, talk, and music. She helped create the Jackson Ward Collective, a program that provides resources to Black-owned businesses, with a goal of helping the businesses owners learn, grow and own through networking hubs in historically Black communities. Additionally, she heads the initiative for establishing the Richmond Times Dispatch and Richmond.com as the leading source of video in the region and hosts A1 Minute, a daily snippet of RVA news. Kelli reigns as entrepreneur, consultant, media personality, and storyteller—a true Queen Bee.
DeShon Rollins, Dancer/Educator
I met DeShon as he was joining The Latin Ballet of Virginia. His vibrant personality shone as he soared through the air at great heights and his strength as a passionate dancer cannot be denied. This Virginia State University alumnus has been featured in the Washington Post and has studied at the prestigious Joffrey School of Ballet in New York City. He is currently dancing and teaching at The Latin Ballet of Virginia and recently toured and performed in Spain!
Glen Lewis, Dancer/educator/Choreographer
Just like DeShon, I met this shining star while working at The Latin Ballet of Virginia. Glen’s performances are full of grace and power. He has a B.F.A in Dance and Choreography and was awarded Outstanding Choreographer in 2009 from Virginia Commonwealth University. Glen's training began at the Governor School for the Arts and then continued at Richmond Ballet, Alvin Ailey Dance Theater, and the 'Nederland Dans Theater'. While studying at NDT, he was in the original cast set by internationally acclaimed choreographer Marco Goecke.
Photo by: Cullen B. Strawn
Justin Golden, Musician/Instructor/Loan Officer
Justin and I met at an open house strangely enough. When this Mortgage Advisor at America Mortgage LLC isn’t helping others buy homes, he is not just playing stages across Virginia, but most recently in France where he graced them for 2 weeks of bluesy magic. This impressively talented Piedmont Blues style guitarist is part of the Virginia Folklife Program where teaches Piedmont Blues and Gospel Guitar, Travis Picking, and Aural Training to all levels. He might be singing and playing the blues, but he is a joy to be around. Make sure you catch his next gig!
Spring Henderson Neal, Owner of Elite Catering
Just like her name, Spring reflects all that is joyous and flourishing. I met Spring at an event last year where her and her friendly staff laid out a spread full of heart and goodness. Her company Elite Catering, has provided delicious and savory dishes for many a wedding, corporate, and special events. Spring is one of those “memorable” people and her food is as well. She specializes in Southern cuisine and you’ll be licking your fingers for sure! Spring along with her sweet staff can bring soul to any event.
Hibernation Central: Organizing Your Winter Gear
Winter can get messy and not all of us have the luxury of a mudroom, but here are some great DIY ideas for storing and organizing your cold weather wearables.
We are at the pivotal moment in season where we can pick up our winter coat and say, “Yes, yes I will be wearing you today.” Well, it’s hard to say since I was donning shorts and a t-shirt a mere week ago. Richmond is climate schizophrenic like that. Not all of us have been blessed with mudrooms to neatly don our Boho chic pillows, scripted names, and Toms. For years I’ve had winter coats strewn throughout the house, scarves hung from doors and on chairs, and snow tracked paths to the kitchen from wet boots. Not having a lot of space where these things can be kept organized, can make your house look like a Winter stripfest. I collected a few DIY winter projects for you to help easily store and organize your seasonally appropriate accoutrements. Hibernation has become our new winter sport it seems and what better way to pass the time than to put a project on your plate!
Baskets and Ladders
Putting a bird on it is no longer on trend the way that utilizing a ladder now reigns as trendiest home decor must. This idea does not disappoint. Take yourself to your local Dollar Tree and grab some baskets. Paint them for added effect and here you will have a place for gloves, scarves, legwarmers, and hats. It’s a great way to utilize small entryways and to put underneath shelving. Go on, put a ladder up.
Hanging Shoe Rack
I gotta take credit here. I’ve been doing this for a long time. I converted my hanging shoe rack to store my hats, gloves and scarves easily. I also put my sunglasses, mini-umbrellas, and bad hair day ties here.
Paint Cans and Hooks
Here’s one for all you crafty folks out there. Paint cans make a great way to store your winter wearables and it’s an easy DIY project. Fasten paint cans to a mounted board, add some hooks underneath, voila! Insta storage!
Clothes Pins
So simple and easy as getting some wire or gluing clothes pins on a hanging board and bam, you’ve got a cute and hassle free way of hanging your winter accessories.
Pebble Boot Tray
Who wants their boots to sit in a puddle of cold water? The point is to dry them out. Adding pebbles or marbles to your tray helps keep your boots dry and is an easy way to store them.
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You can skip these ideas all together and take that boring entry way closet and make your own mini mudroom.
Home Buying: 5 Thought Distortions
You ever want something and just keep talking yourself out of it? I hear time and time again how people think they can’t attain homeownership…
I just bought my first home. I’m not only a real estate agent, but an almost 50 year old first time homebuyer. One of the things I keep hearing and seeing people post about is their inability to believe they too can buy a house. Some of you out there—CAN!
Thought distortions are habitual ways of thinking that are often inaccurate and negatively biased. I hear a lot of them on a daily basis, usually from myself (trust me I’m working on this). When it comes to home ownership this is what I hear:
It’s Cheaper to Rent than Own.
Um. No way. I’ve rented the house I just bought for four almost five years. I have given my landlord approximately $65,000+. Unless you live somewhere like California, chances are your rent is going to a lot less than paying someone else’s mortgage. Besides, you can’t raise the rent on yourself when you have a fixed mortgage payment and aren’t you just itching to be able to paint your own walls and not live underneath someone?
Don’t I have to put like, 20% down??
This is no longer necessary First time home buying doesn’t require 20% these days and in some cases you can put as little as 0% down! You also have more options and incentives as a home buyer. For instance, did you know that you could qualify for grants and assistance from state and local agencies? I've had a few transactions where money was given to assist with down payment for as little as taking an online class.
Ugh, I don’t think it’s a good idea to start looking in the Winter.
WRONG. It’s one of the best times to start looking because guess what? Those insane bidding wars that happen over the Spring and Summer where little Johnny’s parents are trying to find a house before he starts school…well you don’t have to deal with that. You get more time to really look at things and not have the pressure of other buyers to make a high offer. Your negotiating power is also increased. I love showing houses in the Winter. It’s quiet and you get to see how cozy homes can be! Also, the right time to buy a house is when it’s right for you!
I’m going with this lender because they have the lowest interest rate.
NO NO. Just because a lender has a lower rate doesn’t mean they will be the best one for you. Finding a lender who is going to be transparent and trustworthy should be a priority. If your are initially pre-qualifying that rate isn’t etched in stone. It’s easy to ignore other things like lender origination fees, points, mortgage insurance premiums and third-party fees. Finding a lender that fits you and your long term needs is essential.
My credit is crap, I’ll never be able to buy a house .
Whomp whomp buttercup, lift your head up because that is just not true. Also, don’t go into house buying with that attitude or you’ll never own. Just because you have debt or you think your credit score isn’t up to snuff, doesn’t mean you’re dead in the water. With home buying you need a PLAN and your lender is going to help you get to where you need to be. Kinda like that Noom coach. When I hear people give this excuse for not buying, I think of my gymnastics coach, “We don’t say CAN’T here.”
It’s easy to talk yourself out of things. I talk myself out of not buying a pair of shoes quite often. The key to all goals is to have a PLAN. Just the way one might approach weight loss for instance. You aren’t going to start with doing three sets of 100lb bench presses. You are going to set a goal and gradually accomplish the steps taken to get to that goal. You want a house, then make it happen. Here are some tips to get started.
Start with talking to a reputable lender, sometimes an agent can help with recommending one for you. The lender will guide you through the financials and tell you what your loan options are or what you need to get you more buying power.
Hire a good agent. Someone who listens well, who explains the process well, is knowledgeable, and who you fit with. Sometimes it ain’t gonna be your Realtor friend, Mark. Just make sure they work hard for you and understand your needs as a buyer. And most importantly, remember you don’t pay them, the seller does.
Don’t get discouraged. Nothing worth anything is easy in life, sometimes it takes a little bit of work, but the reward is worth it. We all know that. You have to be willing to stick to it and with the right agent by your side, your biggest cheerleader and your best advocate.
Know your limits. It’s exciting looking for homes, but sometimes you aren’t going to qualify for the home that has everything you want, and you need to accept that. Look for homes that are going to give you value and that you can live comfortably in. Your first home doesn’t have to be your forever home, remember that. Have some vision, think of what that home is going to be for you. We’re talking goals here people. Think of the trajectory.
So, what’s your thought distortion? Are you going to keep telling yourself no, or are you going to set out with a plan and make 2022 your year of home ownership? Need some help? I know someone who might be able to get you started 😉.
Real Estate Predictions for 2022
You’ve heard it all before and now their playing the same tune, but 2022 housing market is still going to be a strong one.
Well here we are in a hurry for the end of another weird and wacky year. I’ve answered the “So, how’s the market doing?” question a bazillion times this year and always with the same answers:
“Yes, Margaret the market is still hot and remains a seller’s one!”
”Yes, John lots of buyers, but scarce inventory.”
”I’m sorry, Paige, but you did just lose your 11th offer in a week, you wanna try for 12?”
”Yes, Bill, New Yorkers and Californians are richer than you and have a wad of cash in their vests.”
“Yes, Trina, if you want this house you have to bid xyz over and waive all inspections.”
From Keeping Current Matters
It’s been brutal to say the least. I’m not complaining, I mean I did very well during Covid considering and my buyers did find their dream homes, but I do feel for all my first time home buyers. That’s why I advise to start planning ahead if you want to find home.
What does it look like in 2022? Pretty much the same. We are starting see the rise in mortgage rates and a competitive job market which will only lead to higher demand. Additionally, housing prices will increase by as much as 3%. I foresee an uptick in gentrification in metro areas and still more millenials moving to suburban areas. Rent prices are also continuing to rise making demand for home ownership more desirable amongst the younger generations. I generally think we’ll be seeing more of the same with demand high, inventory low, and more big city transplants.
2022 will see the slow rise of housing prices and even through the slower, cooler months we are seeing lots of activity. If you own land, I suggest getting the most out of it— build a smaller property to provide short term rental or sell a parcel you can spare. As I’ve preached before, Winter is a favorable month to buy due to a decrease in competition while having the ability to take your time while searching for a home. So no Karen, the housing market isn’t slowing down one bit.
If you’d like to know more about thriving areas or information on the value of your home, please feel free to contact me!
RVA Holiday Gift Ideas
Not sure what to get them? Check out these unique and fun gifts from your favorite RVA businesses.
Nobody likes to admit our flaws, but I have to admit, I am a terrible procrastinator. I tend to have an extra dose of it during the holidays and I think it’s because I stress on my gift giving abilities (Will they like it? Is this too expensive? Do I have to get my boss a present too?) and truthfully, I hate giving gifts that will end up at the regifting party.
While my friends’ holiday cards fill my mailbox and my block is blindingly illuminated in decorations, I’m trying to send an email I rewrote five times now! Point being, holiday planning is not my forte, I prefer the receiving end of it all. When I go get to shopping, I’ll be finding the most unique and functional gifts for family and friends so not to mimic my aunt’s taste for Dollar Store bath soaps and porcelain chickens. So, if you are not into the socks and underwear crowd, try these unique and creative gift ideas for your family and loved ones. What better way to support our RVA small businesses!
Happy shopping! (click on photos for links)
World of Mirth
Everything about WOM is magical during holiday season. So many unique gifts from child to adult. I love the staff here usually, but during this time, they are uber patient and helpful. I mean where else can you find The Hip Hop Queens Oracle deck or Dolly Parton air freshener? If you want to gift your new mommy some cool baby duds, this is the spot!
Clay Ground
You know what a cool gift is? Art. You know what a cooler gift is? Art they can make. Clay Ground is a ceramic studio on the east end of Richmond, offering classes, open studio hours, private lessons, private events and membership. It is a really fun way to make art and new friends or you know, relive those Ghost scenes! Gift certificates are also available.
Alma’s RVA
If you are looking to support our local artisans as well as a local business owner, look no further than Alma’s. They have subscription boxes, gift certificates, and one of kind jewelry, glassworks, ceramics and so much more. I cannot tell you what a treat Northside got when Mrs. Miser set up shop. Please check their website for their latest installations. and workshops.
RVA Tattoos
With over 50 shops to choose from and a myriad of incredibly talented artists, RVA does not lack on this unique gift. Who doesn’t want their deposit paid for or a gift certificate to their favorite ink well. Additionally, a lot of these places sell artwork and merch from their artists as well . Give a gift that will literally be permanently remembered.
Cooking Classes
I know a lot of people who love to cook and want to sharpen their skills by expanding their home menus. Some want to fine tune or learn to use diverse ingredients while others just want to learn to cook healthier. Giving the gift of cooking not only is a great gift, but it’s only going to benefit you at the next dinner party.
Jewelry
RVA has some fine jewelry makers and who doesn’t want cool bling to show off. You can support our local jewelers and also give someone a unique statement piece. Shop these and get all your bijoulicious wares.
It’s Leatha
We have some very talented leathersmiths here in RVA, and what better long lasting items to present to your loved ones. I particularly like the knife roll that Van Herten crafts and the cool patterns and name of Blackbyrd, badass. Awl Snap has everything from clutches to backpacks for all their toting needs.
Musical Performances/Dance/Theater
If your people are anything like me and enjoy going to a show, then I suggest tickets to support the local performing arts and our very few venues. Check out who is coming to The National, The Camel, The Broadberry, or Richmond Music Hall. Both Richmond Ballet and Latin Ballet of Virginia have gift certificate purchasing available. In addition, The Richmond Symphony has recorded music and gift certificates for purchase to any performance. Give them the gift of improv with Coalition Theater or give them the theater experience with a gift certificate from Virginia Rep. In addition to their annual performances, you can also get them dancing with a class from Dogtown Dance Theater.
Foods
RVA has some great local flavors to enhance any stocking or gift box. Check these out!
I Think You’re Freaky and I Like You a Lot
The holidays are not just for the traditional socks and underwear crowd. If you are looking for something a little different Rest in Pieces is your spot. Cool taxidermy, tarot cards and all things strange, RIP has what you’re looking for.
Words
For those bookworms, go by Chop Suey or Fountain Bookstore and get some local authors’ works and if they are in love with the written word, present the present of a writing class, Life in 10 Minutes is a fantastic way for them to explore their inner scribe.
Social Clubs
Give them the gift of hanging out. RVA has some great social clubs to help them impress clients, interact, and enjoy a communal lifestyle.
Hands On
Get them a class or gift certificate to the Visual Arts Center, membership to Build, RVA or Workbench RVA. The gift of learning is strong Santahopper.
La Flora Decora
I love getting flowers, but I love having them add to my home decor…
One of the things I miss about New York besides the unlimited fashion catwalk or the music venues or the drive by cocktails, it’s actually the flowers. I used to love walking briskly down the sidewalks and seeing men with bouquets of flowers running to catch the train, or watching women carry their groceries with a simple bouquet of lilies peeking out their bags. There’s something about fresh flowers adorning your dining table or a little assortment on an end table that just brings a little something. As Spring has sprung, this is a great time to enjoy some flower power inspirations, whether freshly cut or fauxtastic.
My only problem with fresh flowers is they die. Some are great dried, but others leave a heap of dead petals behind. Faux flowers used to put me off, they appeared chintzy and dull. Those days are gone. Now you have great choices for faux florals that you can also paint vibrant or muted colors depending on your style or mood of rooms. I collected a few bouquet ideas for you to celebrate the renewal of Spring and to give your home a fresh, floral makeover.
Wreaths
Wreaths are always a good idea to perk up any front door, choose from large Peonies to delicate Rhododendrons. I’m thinking about trying to make one of these, but I’m not the crafty type and if you’re anything like me, you’ll just give Cari a call, and have her make one for you.
Framed
This is an easy way to show off your artsy skill. An age old process of pressing flowers and turning them into framed art creates a whimsical, vibrant, or bohemian accent. I love seeing these framed bouquets as well, looks expensive but really easy to DIY your own.
But this Vazzzz...
I think it’s cool when you find flowers in unexpected containers. A classy vase is always nice depending on the bouquet, but I love seeing flowers hanging on the wall in test tubes, or coming out of a skull head. I also like when flowers are mixed with things like fruit or vegetables. I love putting my flowers in unique vintage bottles and I prefer small little ones around the house. Depending on your choice of flowers will most likely determine the type of display you’ll want and it can be as simple or as robust as you’d like.
Flower Power
Your display will only be as powerful as the flowers you choose, whether it’s faux or real. My favorite types to use are peonies, lavender, dahlias, and hydrangeas. Even roses are good for painting interesting colors. Tulips in the springtime are always lovely because they bring so much color, they look great in kitchens. Try putting some little arrangements in the bathroom or on your nightstand. You’d be surprised at how much it’ll add to your decor and you can do it all year round!
Arrangements
If you are anything like me and your crafty gene was lost in your creation, don’t worry, we have plenty of local floral experts who can arrange some mighty fine displays for your home or events. Whether real, silk, or paper, these local petalmeisters have a real knack for arranging florals, some even have workshops and subscription services.
Local Flower Farms
Don’t forget how many wonderful farms are in and around RVA to buy your fresh flowers. Some even carry dried flowers for your displays.
For more floral DIY projects.
Time to Shine
With just an inkling of rising temperatures, it’s the time when we emerge from our cocoons and start giving the outside of our homes the attention it deserves…
I do believe we will be spending another Spring / Summer in limited social capacity. Yes, I too am over it. While some of you will take the chance to leap onto greener pastures through travel or masked frolicking, others will now start to plan their warmer weathered activities.
As I stare at the dead plants upon which I adorn my stoop and porch with, I can fairly say my gardening skills are less than stellar. Cutting grass for me is quite enjoyable as I see it taking the place of my wasted gym membership (which I’m still paying for by the way). We broke down and forked out a stimulus check to get a pool worth wading in while basking in the Summer heat. It got a little messy in our backyard to say the least. This year, I want to create an inviting, pest free space. A space that doesn’t denote the hint of unemployed and overfilled recycling bins, one that says, “Hello, welcome to our Summer bubble, won’t you come in and enjoy this lavender flavored iced tea.”
All that being romanticized, we have a large yard. Last year I broke down and got my own landscaper who mulches, weeds, and takes care of anything that will put us in the “trashy” category. I also recalled last year’s heavily booked schedules for landscapers, painters, gutter cleaners, powerwashers and roofers. So here’s your little reminder for all those wanting that luxurious looking curb appeal to get on the books now! Here are a few I’ve used who provide excellent service. I recommend one that provides a membership-like schedule.
Landscapers
Arborists
PowerWashers
Gutters
Handy Repairs
In addition to yard primping, Spring cleaning should be on the list as well. Think about how long you’ve been inside, living, working, playing in your home. Also, a great Mother’s Day gift *wink *wink. A good deep clean will refresh your home for the new season and what better way to eliminate any wandering virus potentials. These cleaners are Covid safe and will give your home that sun shiny clean it’s been waiting for!
In addition to yard primping, Spring cleaning should be on the list as well. Think about how long you’ve been inside, living, working, playing in your home. Also, a great Mother’s Day gift *wink *wink. A good deep clean will refresh your home for the new season and what better way to eliminate any wandering virus potentials. These cleaners are Covid safe and will give your home that sun shiny clean it’s been waiting for!
My Best Cleaners
Some other improvements/refreshes to make during this time:
Resealing/Painting of Decks
Painting the Front Door a New Color
Updating your Roof if Needed
Ordering Maintenance for Your HVAC Units
Buy your Above Ground Pool NOW
Get New Cushions for Your Outdoor Furniture
Paint your Fences
Call Me to Do a Walkthrough for Listing Your Home!
Let the beautification begin! For any all recommendations visit:
The Colors of My Life
Colors are so powerful when it comes to setting a mood, selling or buying a house, or capturing a feeling…
All My Colors (in order): My house exterior, My house interior, the velvet blue furniture I’m dreaming of, the black that comes with the Aston Martin, and Valentino red I love to don as frequently as possible.
You know when you’re dreaming and something catches your eye and it leaves you with such a desire that you want it to become part of you? That’s how I feel about color. I’m sure all you design freaks are in the know that Pantone chose not one, but two colors of the year for 2021. I guess since 2020 was such a dull grey that had to spice things up. Funny enough they chose Illuminating Yellow and Ultimate Gray, how contrary and a good depiction of the past and future.
“Sherwin-Williams sets revenue records as DIY paint sales jump during pandemic.”
I’ve always found yellow to be an abhorrent color. I felt the only places it looked good on were lemons, bananas and the sun, but I’ve started to warm up a little to certain shades. Anyone who is familiar with my brand, knows I am a color loyalist — red and black will most likely be my go-to when choosing representation and clothing. My mother hated my goth phase in high school, “You know in Panama prostitutes wear black!” It gave me great satisfaction putting a sole red bandana in my hair to satisfy her discontent. I did however go through a strong purple phase, especially with hair colors (mom loved that). Each time I wear red I am complimented highly. It suits my passions, my culture, and my eye. Black, well, black says bold, it makes a statement that is serious, yet chic and I like that. I think after my obsession of wanting to fit in, becoming a slave to the United Colors of Benetton, it only seemed logical that my rebellious side take over, leaving black as my only option to convey how I was feeling (angsty) and besides, what color displayed The Cure and Depeche Mode better?
The memory of color is etched in my brain. I can remember the shade of green our 1970’s leather living room couch wore and I remember the electric blue hot pants my neighbor wore on her first day of high school. I recall only choosing the Midnight Blue crayon to shade my Fashion Plates’ designs until it diminished, unusable, and wished they had more than one in there. I still love that color to this day. I know I cringe at the sight of pastels, and coral seems to incite a certain gag reflex in me. I met a girl once who had Synesthesia and I was so fascinated that every time she would see or think of numbers it was a different color. I giggled as I asked her what painting by numbers was like. When I used to see gold in homes, it used to make me think of chintzy, gaudy things, now it has become a marketable trend. I think it’s safe to say that colors can remark an era of time, think turquoise and yellow kitchens of the 1950s, but who knew that a shade of pink could define an entire generation?
Color invokes emotion, memory and sets a mood. It is a factor in why some houses sell and others don’t. If I do a walkthrough for an upcoming listing and the walls are painted with an unattractive color, I tell them they need to paint. I’ve had clients pass on a bid because they didn’t like the color of the house, even though they could very well paint it the color of their dreams. I showed a house once that had a beautiful dining area with Emerald green accented walls accompanied with vintage wallpapering. I had to remind my clients to see the rest of the house before putting an offer, they loved that room so much.
We, as Agents, tend to steer listers towards neutrals, but I don’t hesitate to add color as a future option for my purchasers. It helps them set an individual tone to their home and envision what it could be. We are currently in a moody, vivid trend with home paint colors, which I am loving. I like to see a bathroom that’s painted black with brass fixtures, or a dining room that has a darker shade of blue on it’s walls. I think it pops and creates a unique atmosphere. When I lived in New York, I painted the living room this burnt sienna color and had warm hues and textures adorning it, think Morocco. We never had a guest who stayed awake in that room, there was always at least one person who fell asleep peacefully in a room full of people. I was proud to create that reaction because it meant my home was that comfortable.
Photo by: Homes & Gardens
Trends or no trends, color is an important aspect to home. It helps us express who we are and how we want others to feel. It’s powerful in it’s aesthetic and what it does to your psyche. I view color the way I view art, I feel it. If I walk into a room and I see Drunk Tank Pink, I’m going to instantly hurl. As you can deduce, pink is not my favorite color. Technology has made it so easy to create colors that are one of a kind or mock that of a bird or a classic car you love. So much inspiration, so little space! So, as the weather starts to warm up and you’re making your list of home improvements this Spring, think about how you want your house to look, inside and out. If you are thinking about selling this year, it’s a perfect time for you to be picking out your curb appealing shades. In the meantime, enjoy the blue skies, golden sun, and budding greens we are currently having, we’re due for a more colorful kind of year, no?
If you are thinking about selling your home and need some help guiding you through the process, please feel free to contact me. I’m more than happy to help you get the best value for your property and as quickly as possible.
The Home Warranty
A home warranty? What is it and do I want that?
When I put a bid in for my clients, I usually encourage them to ask for a Home Warranty paid by the seller. What is this and why do you want it? A home warranty is basically a service contract designed to repair or replace the major systems and appliances in a home as they are used over time. It guarantees a home buyer that if something breaks due to normal wear and tear, the warranty company will provide coverage to repair or replace it.
I cannot tell you how many times a new homeowner moves in and two days later the HVAC stopped working. The warranty usually covers parts and labor and major appliances like refrigerators, dishwashers, washer/dryers, and even microwaves. It covers built-in systems, such as HVAC and ductwork, garbage disposals and ceiling fans. The warranty is for usually a year, but you can extend it. Plans usually run $400-600 annually and you have the choice of adding a premium package to the mix if you’d like. This can cover such costs as disposal of equipment, code upgrades and permits which are sometimes not covered with most plans.
It’s just some added protection as you start your new chapter and I recommend getting it highly when writing up the contract. It’s just some added assurance that if and when things start to fall apart, you are covered. I have highly recommended warranty companies I use and getting a quote is so very easy. Feel free to peruse their sites to get a better understanding of what can be covered in your home warranty. Happy House Hunting!
Looking for Love in All the Right Places
Are you ready to fall in love?
She and I met when I was about 5 or 6 years old. She had an iron wrought gate surrounding her as though she wore a choker from the 1800s. Her color was pale blue and her two tiered porches wrapped around her waist as though she donned a lace trimmed ball gown. Her eyes were dark, but her lids came in a myriad of brocade colors and her steeples pointed to the heavens with such grace. She was a true beauty, and my dream for a long time.
I used to pass this house on my way home from school in my small hometown of Crowley, LA. I loved that majestic home, untouchable and hiding so many stories within its walls. It was the first home I ever can remember dying to live in. Fast forward 30 something years, and I’ve had a few crushes here in RVA, but none have drawn me in the way that gorgeous Victorian of my childhood did.
Falling in love with a home requires a true connection. When you are looking for the perfect match, there are some things to consider…
Attraction. What’s she wearing? Is it a ball grown or is it a little black dress? Does it wink at you when you drive by or does it tighten up when you approach it’s gates? We all have some sort of architecture we love whether it’s the warm coziness of a Bellevue bungalow or the stately Colonials adorning the near West End or the grandeur of Monument Avenue’s Classical Revivals. No matter what you love on the outside, that love at first site thing is real when it comes to house hunting. Her outsides are the first thing you see. You may be attracted to her country porch, her picturesque face, or you may be tempted with her manicured lawns and meticulous landscaping.
It’s What’s Inside that Counts. I’ve seen several unsuspecting homes. They don’t initially catch my eye as I’m driving up, but then I go inside and that’s where she gets me. Some people are attracted to flooring, some to unique details, and others to particular rooms. For me, I’m drawn to unique quarters like libraries and secret lounges. Yes, I know this is a higher expectation, but if I have to settle, I’ll settle for falling in love with a kitchen and/or bathroom. She could be a high class gal adorned with granite countertops and the most up to date appliances or she could have original floors and an antique vanity. I think a lot of people are looking for a home that meets a less cookie cutter image, something that feels more personal. You want the love of your life to stand out from the rest, no? Aesthetics aside, there’s something more important than looks…
That Warm and Fuzzy Feeling. It all comes down to how she makes you feel. When you open her door can you see a future? Do you feel warm or do you feel as though she might spit you out when you try to change her? I’ve had clients walk in and immediately walk right out because of an initial vibe. No matter how pretty she is, if she doesn’t give you the warm and fuzzies, it’s not for you. I don’t ever want to force my clients into falling in love with something they don’t want to marry. I encourage people to take in a home, walk around it, glide your hands down her banisters, lay in her tubs, lean on her counters, check out her surroundings, and visit her at night. Then ask yourself, Is she loving you back?
Not every home is going to be The One. You could find one that is Fun for Now, but not marriage material. The most important thing is not to be rash, but to take some time and get to know her, find out all you can about her, learn about her history and how she’s grown, and make sure she doesn’t have any baggage that’s going to come up later.
I pine for the day I can walk into a home and say, “This is my forever!”. Until then I’m still dating around, trying to find out which one is worth my investment. What about you? Have you fallen in love yet? Are you ready to make a commitment? I’d love to hear more Love Stories, feel free to leave a comment.
For the Love of Home Questionnaire
What was the first home you fell in love with and why?
See Above and also because I really love historic homes.
What was the first home you cohabited in? You know, your first love nest?
We’d been dating for well over 3 years and although he was at my house pretty much every day, we didn’t officially move in together until 2002. 3 S Vine. A small one bedroom apartment that I fell in love with because it was updated and the location was stellar. We ate at The Lighthouse a whole lot! The thing I loved about it the most was that we lived there alone — no roommates!What was the home that got away?
I have house regret. There was this beautiful house in the near West End that my friend lived in. When she moved away they put it on the market and I wished I could have bought that lovely house on Kensington.What is the decor you are crushing on currently?
I’m really digging vintage style wallpaper. I think seeing shows and film influence my style choices. Ever since I watched Sharp Objects, I want all of that! I am also digging the Art Deco style that has made a comeback. The colors in particular, I just love moody, lush colors.What is your home breakup story? The home you miss the most or the home that brought you nothing but heartache?
It’s not necessarily a “home” in terms of the construct you live in, but the home I miss the most is New York, funny, it the home which has brought me the most heartache as well. I do miss it’s vibe though!What is your favorite place you LOVE to be in at your house and why?
Our bedroom. I love how dark it is and yet how bright I can make it. I also love our front porch which makes for a great way to get to know your neighbors.Was or is there a neighborhood you LOVE the most?
Yes, this one. Ginter Park and Brookland Park has been my favorite place to live in RVA. I love it so much! Its walkability, its business owners, its friendly neighbors and the homes are incredible and historic.What is your favorite piece of furniture?
Right now it’s the album holder which was custom built by Tom Brickman. In the future I hope it is velvet chaise I hope to attain.