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We're Going to the Backyard and We're...Gonna Get Married
It’s #NationalWeddingMonth and what better way to save duckets by having your celebration…
“For me it was holding onto the magic of it all. What woman doesn’t want to sip her tea or coffee in the morning while gazing upon the spot she said “I Do”.”
Photo by: Jo Ann Breaux
Kai and Sam Parker tied the knot at their gorgeous historic farmhouse last year.
It’s February, which means love is in the air and it’s officially National Weddings Month. February does own the most weddings to a single day. The trajectory of matrimony has evolved in recent times. No longer are couples waiting to buy homes after they tie the knot and couples are being more cost conscious when thinking about the thousands of dollars spent on a one day event.
Think about it. Would you rather start your life together in debt or would you rather have a budgeted wedding day where you can maybe take a fantastic honeymoon or maybe save for a future endeavor? I love a backyard wedding. There’s so much you can do without the hassle of extra costs or stress from dealing with vendors to time restraints to transportation. Home is where the heart is in this scenario. As of 2022, the average cost of a wedding in the United States is $30,000, which includes the ceremony and reception and that’s only in some states. Depending on where you are, you could be looking at 40K+ for your big day. Imagine how much you could within your home for that much! I don’t—thank you very much.
Here are a few money saving ideas for your backyard wedding, but remember, it is about what you want in the end.
Local Author Ward Howarth and wife of 20 years, Amy had a beautiful and intimate wedding.
“It felt more personal, less formal. No rules, just more like us.”
Lights: You can’t go wrong with a dusky wedding. Ground lanterns to light up walkways or hanging jars with electric candles. And of course string lights will work nicely for the occasion.
Picnic: A great idea is having a picnic wedding in the backyard. Having blankets strewn about as you lay about for the happy couple.
Projectors: Using a projector to provide a slideshow backdrop can be sentimental and fun.
Trees: Trees are great for swings, hanging lights, photos, fabrics, and are great to hold a laundry line where guest can pin up the polaroids or sentimental notes.
Privacy Fences: These are great to hang family photos, lights, or use as a photo backdrop.
Food: Use a local caterer or make it a potluck, it doesn’t have to be from a Michelin star restaurant so make it easy.
“We were about to make a life together. We loved our house and it just felt like the natural thing to do. It is a memory that is etched into where we live and love.”
Have a look at these RVA backyard lovebirds!
Karen and Doug had an intimate ceremony in their backyard and then did it again in Poe’s.
Kristy and Keith Rader opted for the front yard underneath their pretty magnolia tree—how Southern of y’all.
Victoria and Joe Deroche did the casual thing with her children by their sides under the pergola.
Austen and Savannah vowed to have a great time with their fun backyard nuptials.
For more simple and budget friendly ideas:
Soup's On!
It’s Soup Season and I’m here for it!
Oh January! We all just want to cuddle up by the fire and enjoy a good read or watch our stories. January is the month of the soup and while you are all cuddled up, perhaps you’ll need some nourishment. I found these soothing and simple recipes for some added warmth.
I’m featuring my top five soups, but I have collected a few on my Pinterest Board. Click on the pincode for more delicious soup recipes and feel free to share yours in the comments.
Italian Wedding Soup
It’s heart and full of good yums.
Photo Source: Good in the Simple
Sancocho
With Panamanian pride, I cherish this cozy comfort from my homeland. This soup is made in different Latin countries with different variations.
Photo Source: Iheartcilantro on AllRecipes.com
Lentil Soup
It’s super easy to make and is totally good for you, add Chorizo or veggie Chorizo for a little spice. Qué Rico!
Photo Source: Maricruz Avalos Flores
Pho
The Cure All! I love Pho when I’m not feeling well or if I just want something that I can feel in my soul!
Photo Source: Ananas J
French Onion
It might be the bread and the crispy cheese on top, but French Onion soup will be put me in a place of satiated comfort.
Photo Source: sheri silver
Honorable Mention: My Mama’s Chicken and Sausage Gumbo
This soup takes some tender loving care, but also not a soup in my definition, more like a stew. It’s all in the roux baby.
Photo Source: My Cousin Tiger Breaux
Photo Source: Nathan Dumlao
Soup Scene
Can’t be bothered making the stuff? No worries, we have some very good brothy finds in RVA proper.
Pho Luca is my Photastic find and of course Pho Tay Do.
French Onion Soup is très bonne at Chez Max.
Garnett’s always has great variety in their Soup du Jours.
Every soup I’ve ever had at Lulabelle’s Cafe has been spot on.
If you ever want just a really good Chicken Noodle Soup, Izzy’s is the spot!
And for our Ramen lovers…Grace Noodle is the highest rated.
Slurp It Up!
For More Soup Recipes, visit my Pinterest Board.
Gratitude Attitude
It’s time for being grateful and giving thanks, but also doling out acts of kindness in a bleak world…
We are at the time of year where we say thanks and graciously appreciate all that we have. I know it’s been rough. I think this year has tried to kill any spirit i have left. I feel a lot of us are struggling in ways we hadn’t seen before and they can be both scary and disorienting. The best thing to do to remedy these feeling is to do something good. I’m big believer in collective energy and I fear that is what the world is missing right now. That energy is also contagious, so if we all just tried to do something kind and good for others, perhaps we can shift this heavy dark weight?
Here’s a start:
VOLUNTEER: Find a local charity and take a day with you, your family, your friends, whoever and go help an organization out.
FUNDRAISE: Hold a donation drive for your favorite local charity. Every bit counts so make it fun and festive while helping these organizations stay afloat.
WRITE A LETTER: Whether you send a card or write a letter, you won’t believe what it feels like to see that in the mail amongst all the bills. I guarantee you, it will make someone’s day.
DELIVER A MEAL: Make some baked goods or a simple meal to bring to other’s doorsteps. It will be a delight for sure!
OFFER TO BABYSIT: My friend’s with kids are so exhausted. They barely have time to spend with each other or do anything for themselves. Frankly, I’m tired of seeing kids at breweries. Volunteer some time to babysit for your friends. They will appreciate the the cherished time spent on adulting.
DRIVE BY COMPLIMENTS: This is one of my favorite TikTok things. I love the people at stop lights or driving by slowly and giving others compliments. The smiles are so worth it! Positive Catcalling if you will!
TEACH: Do you have a friend who is constantly needing help with a skill that you possess? Take a day and have a teaching session. This not only goes a long way, but you are giving something of great value to someone else.
It doesn’t take much to be kind or to appreciate the things you have. Giving others the same will bring everyone to a better place.
This year I am raising money for the following charities, help me reach my goals!
Photo: Jesus Espinosa/Xinhua via ZUMA Press
Cruz Roja Mexicana: The Red Cross in Mexico to help those displaced during Hurricane Otis.
Jeremy and Kristen Turner: Friends of mine who lost everything in the Lahaina, Maui, Hawaii Fire. They are just trying to start over.
Latin Ballet of Virginia: I love this organization and what they do to give kids confidence in their identity and connects them with their culture. It is an organization close to my heart and who doesn’t love to dance!
The Pilgrimage to Tradition
Creating new traditions can be a fun way to establish your new home…
The holidays are here and with that comes the legacy of ritual. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately in terms of what Covid has changed and the way we are in gathering spaces. Growing up, we rarely celebrated the holiday dinner at home, even though my mom was the Queen of cookery between households. The traditional holiday dinner in my family was spent at my Uncle Eddie and Aunt Elgene’s house in the country. With eight of their children along with 12 grandchildren, they didn’t need much to get the party started. By the time our family of four showed up, there was a kitchen counter, a large table, and three additional tables full of food and desserts ready to be gobbled up.
“Eat at a restaurant instead of making everything from scratch. I always thought I’d prefer to make it myself but it ends up becoming a big ball of stress for me!”
“We put up our tree the second weekend in November.”
The creep into the eve consisted of dancing cousins, horses indoors, and George Jones on the turntable. My brother and I remember our dad carrying us out of the backseat of Buick and to our beds if we didn’t win the insistent begging to stay the night.
“I open my doors to anyone I know (and some I don’t) who has no other place to go.”
“We burn a yule log on the solstice, we said goodbye to xmas.”
As I got older with divorced parents, the holidays just became an obligation I was most apathetic about. I had rather been invited to a friend’s family home instead. Whilst in college, I opted to not come home to my my parents with new partners and then I got married. The tradition to visit one, two, three, and a fourth home for the holidays became a treacherous, but bittersweet ritual. His family, like the Walton’s, were easy to get along with and there was never a lack of good eats. I sometimes miss that former life where the table would seat 15-20 people and the din would be loud and full of life.
“Go on vacation for Thanksgiving with my spouse and forgo the family drama.”
So, now we come to today. Mom is East, Dad is South, and Brother is West. My partner’s mom is in Canada, the rest of my family overseas as well. Doesn’t make for the warm gathering of holiday cheer does it? Now that I own my home, I finally get to have a say in annual customs! I thought I’d share for all you who grew up in traditions you may not have liked very much or that weren’t very efficient.
THE TREEDITIONAL DECORATIONS
My brother was allergic to pine growing up so we never could have a real tree. Every year we plan a family trip to a tree farm and spend the day picking and cutting our own while exploring a cute town. Consider the day you want to put up the tree or do decorations, but do it as a family and take an opportunity to get some memorable photos.
THANKSGIVING SUPPER
Make whatever you want. Who says you always have to make a turkey and a ham? I prefer a good steak or italian. I also prefer not to cook on Thanksgiving. Eating out has been pleasurable and so much less mess to clean up!
THE OPEN HOUSE
I love a holiday open house. People come and they go and they bring dishes and so forth. It’s less formal and more fun!
SWITCH HOUSES
Every year, draw for who gets to do the holiday meal and yes, you might have to fight with mom on this one.
Photo Source: Momfluential
SHARING GRATITUDE
Have everyone write down what they are thankful for and put them in a jar. When everyone is indulging in coffee and desert, pass the jar around and read off what you pull.
FLICKS
Every Christmas we watch Elf with cookies and cocoa and popcorn. It’s the best. Watching a holiday movie is more fun with a crowd.
GAMES
My family used to play Bourré after the holiday meal and I cherish those memories of watching them play. Games are a great way to have fun and engage everyone before they fall into the food coma.
HOLIDAY BRUNCH
I love the idea of brunch on Christmas rather than Christmas dinner when everyone is exhausted.
THE FAMILY THAT GIVES TOGETHER
A really great way to honor the holidays is to get a group of family and friends together and give back. Choose a non-profit you can volunteer at or host your own food drive.
BANNING AT THE TABLE
If there is a family member who is the constant friction in your holiday plans, cut them out. Seems harsh, but once they start to notice they aren’t invited to the table, then a real conversation begins. It’s too stressful having someone always being judgy and argumentative for the holidays. Those times are for calm and peace.
ADULT HOUR
Implement a cocktail/mocktail hour before dinner with nice music and company. Send the kids outside or somewhere else in the house and take an hour to ease your way to the holiday meal. As soon as we walk into the door, my mom wants to feed us. I always feel rushed, so in my house, we chill for a little bit while things are cooking and people are arriving.
HELP
Every holiday traditional meal should end with help to break down. Nothing is worse than having loads of dishes and clean up to do after spending hours in the kitchen. This is a good way to teach the kids some empathy!
SLEEP OVERS
I love this tradition of sleeping over the eve of or on the holidays. It’s cozy and fun and a great way for everyone to bond.
TRAVEL
I love traveling on the holidays! It has been my favorite tradition to implement. Book a trip solo or have a beach or mountain stay with the fam.
WISHLISTS
You could all sit and do your holiday wish lists together over hot chocolate and treats.
SANTA LETTERS
I love doing a custom Santa letter that gets “sent” by Santa himself.
Whatever you decide to do for the holidays, make it as stress free as possible. Traditions don’t have to be exhausting or complicated. They don’t have to be conventional or boring either. Have fun with it and enjoy all that holidays are supposed to be—joyous, festive, and cozy.
Sashay RVA
National Square Dance Month has us swinging out partners…
Image Source: Ozark County Times
Do you remember those awkward moments in PE class when you had to learn to do si do and sashay? I grew up in a place where dancing was essential to your being, and whether you grabbed your grandma or your wife, you can be sure you’d be on the dance floor before the night is over. From what I know now, these days, Square Dancing is no longer taught in PE and I wondered how alive this tradition is these days. It seems like the tradition of people dancing together has become obsolete, unless you’re donning leather over at Fallout or waltzing the night away at some cotillion, the act of dancing cheek to cheek or hand to hand is hard to find.
So what is square dancing? Square dancing is a traditional American folk dance with European roots brought over by the settlers and then modified over time with the intermingling of different cultures. It consists of four couples fitting into the corners of a square. Usually square dancing is associated with country folk, but these traditional dances primary stem from Scottish/Irish, French and English origins. There are many types of square dances depending on what region you live in and in Virginia, Square Dance was designated as the official folk dance in 1991.
Square Dancing is made up of different “calls” from “callers”. Callers shout or sing out the instructions to the dancers to follow and often entertain the crowd. Here are a few calls you may or may not have heard of, but are most common:
Circle Left: All eight dancers join hands and walk in a left circle
Allemande Left: Everyone face their corner, take a left forearm with their corner and circles around until they are facing their partners again, Drop arms.
Do Si Do: Face your partner, step past each other passing right shoulders and without turning around step back to back then back up passing left shoulders until you are in front of your partner again.
Promenade: Couples in a skater's position, men on the ladies left side, and slightly behind her, take hands and walk together in a counterclockwise circle until you reach your home position. (Starting Position)
Swing: Couples in a ballroom dance position, circling in a clockwise direction a full 360 degrees or until facing the line of dance. Man twirls the lady under his arm to finish the swing.
Weave the Ring: Everyone face their partner and walk forward in a circle formation passing each other with alternating shoulders, starting with the right. Stop when you get to your partner.
Here’s a little video presentation from RVA Squares featuring Grant Hunnicut as the Caller.
I was actually surprised to find some Square Dance clubs here in RVA and now my interest is peaked. It may not be 7th grade PE, but looks and sounds like a good time. If you are interested in promenading into one of these groups, here are a few suggestions around town.
Making Room
Amanda Scudder is the Owner and a Certified Professional Organizer in Richmond, VA.
It was a very sunny morning when I met up with Amanda Scudder, Owner and Certified Professional Organizer of Sprucely, Home and Lifestyle Solutions. This one woman show drives this passion project to helping those organize their homes so they can have space for themselves and others, inside and out.
As Fat Rabbit morsels filled space in our bellies, I took some time to discover that organizing goes beyond purging one’s closet, but can become a healthy and liberating habit. I don’t know about you, but I cannot work in a cluttered space for too long. I also cannot deal with the overwhelming sensation of sentimental disposal. I tend to want to keep everything from wine corks to scribble filled napkins. It is the complete opposite of a close friend whose monthly firepit hang ends in the remnants of old love poems and greeting cards.
Amanda began her career with a Masters in Social Work and was all too familiar with implementing effective systems as part of her work. She is also a very kind and gentle person. So while she did her stint in Social Work, including working for United Way, she felt like something was unfulfilled in her. The Universe, my friends, is a powerful ally. It wasn’t until she randomly went to a retreat and met someone needing assistance with organizing her home, that the switch flipped. She had found the missing piece. Sprucely was born out of that passion after doing her time learning and getting certified at the Institute of Challenging Disorganization®.
Doing the unstuck is hard. Where do you start? How do start? Why do you need it? I know when I am doing a thorough clean and organizing things in my home, the energy shifts. I’m able to be more productive, my mood is lifted—of course til I mess it all up again! Many people have a hard time—putting things away, making space for what’s important, or parting with things that have meaningful significance. Amanda is able to facilitate and support those who are ready to take that leap, but she does so without creating resistance. She allows her clients space to be ready for such a task, but also gives them motivations to ponder.
Amanda is also quite certified in not only being a professional organizer, but is also one if not the only local Organizer that is a practicing CPO-CD (Certified Professional Organizer in Chronic Disorganization®). This required her to evaluate case studies, medical histories, and work with a mentor. She has also completed intensive studies in helping those with such disorders as ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, Hoarding Disorder, PTSD, TBI and those with individuals suffering from OCD. Her interest lies in the “why” rather than the “what”. A lot of her job is helping those maintain a healthy routine of ‘putting things back where they belong’.
As Realtors®, we help our clients facilitate moving in and moving out of houses, Amanda helps them in both those transitions giving them a real brand new start. She helps clients get rid of the clutter before a move and shows them how to create efficient and good organizational habits to begin their new homes. But it is what Amanda does with clients who are in a life transition that I find dear. She helps clients find a meaningful and resourceful place for those items they part with so that they are beneficial to someone else in need. For example, someone who adheres to lots of books that they don’t necessarily need, could contribute to a library or bookshare. She shows others that the significance in that item could be meaningful to someone else, therefore releasing them, but never pushes them.
I have a box in my home that I will never get rid of. My ‘history’ if you will, can be found easily and within reach, but I tend to have lots of clutter around me. I have lots of clutter in my life as well. I think about how it makes me feel to transform that clutter into an inviting space for me to create and be tranquil in, and it is a desire of mine. Both Amanda and I agree that there is not set “way” to organize—every individual is different with various challenges. Some people need auditory cues while others need the visual, there just isn’t a set method to it all. You have to do what works for you and in the time it works for you. Sometimes we just need a little help seeing the trees through the clutter, while some of us just want to create a roadmap to organizational bliss.
If you are feeling overwhelmed and don’t know where to start, Sprucely can help! If you’d like to have a consultation with Amanda to figure out how to make space in your life, click below and schedule and appointment.
Slimming Down RVA
Eating healthy in RVA was never so easy. We have everything from Vegan to Mediterranean cuisine readily available to help you get that Summer bod in check!
Photo by: Jo Ann Breaux | Kismet Modern Kitchen
Yes, it’s true, we have some amazing restaurants here and the number is growing. We also have Operation Summer Bod Health Journey initiating amongst our denizens. So although, I really want to indulge in our A-Class bakeries and hear the crunch of Southern fried chicken, I’m on the hunt for some healthier options.
Kismet modern Kitchen
This newly installed amazingness is nothing short of tantalizing flavors and fresh plates. Portion control may be a little harder here.
Little Nickel
Little Nickel has the biggest and some of the best salads. They are crisp and light and you can add healthy protein options.
Cava | Mezeh | Roots Natural Kitchen
I’m lumping these three together because although, different flavors same concept. If you want delicious, quick, healthy bowls, i love these spots who have various locations in RVA.
North End Juice Company
I cannot say enough good things about this little gem. Organic and whole foods splendidly made.
Fresca on Addison
This sweet place has been in RVA for quite sometime and has always been a great dining option for those looking for a tasty vegetarian or vegan dish.
Fighting Fish
You can’t go wrong with eating Japanese food. You won’t be disappointed with the sushi and dishes at Fighting Fish.
Jannat Indian Cuisine
I don’t know about you, but I get real tired of salads when I’m trying to be lose weight or be healthier. Indian food is one of the healthiest cuisines and probably the tastiest!
2023, RIC, and Me
A new beginning of RVA love…
Photo by: Jo Ann Breaux, Mural Walk | Downtown RVA
Welcome to 2023 y’all! I’m not a big resolution gal, but I am a “let’s improve on this” one. One of the things I’ve noticed is that people are not getting out. I think because Covid left us where we are, some of us are having a harder time, or perhaps an easier time enjoying the comforts of our homes. I get it, I definitely haven’t been as motivated to go out and when i do, I find myself in quite awkward verbal exchanges. I’ve never had that problem before. So, basically things have changed.
I’ve been thinking about that and how I want to improve my business, but also improve my relationship. No, not with my partner, but my relationship with my lover—RVA. The thing I’ve loved most about Covid, (can I say that?), is that I delved into exploring different areas around VA and I’ve decided I want to do more of that, but also do things around Richmond I’ve never done before. That’s the thing, isn’t it? I’ve known some people who’ve lived their entire lives in Richmond and don’t come Downtown or to the Fan even. So, I thought I’d share some RVAcentric things I want to do that I haven’t done in my 32 years in our lovely city. What will you do?
The Observation Deck
It’s temporarily closed but hopefully will reopen soon. I’d always heard about it but never been.
Virginia Museum of History and Culture
Yes, I know, insane I’ve never been here
Picnic at VMFA
I sometimes forget what a beautiful set this is for picnicking and journaling
The Veil and Nokoribi
My friends at Longoven and The Veil have created this amazing space for their new venture and I cannot wait to experience it!
Wheel Time at Clayground
I’ve never made anything pottery like in my life, so I want to create something in this medium!
Visit the ICA
I drive by it all the time, but never thought to actually go inside.
Some Bike Tour of RVA
Seems dumb for someone who has lived her to do a “tour” but I happen to think that this is a great opportunity to learn more about where I live and a great way to see the city on bike, in addition to photo ops.
I’ll probably be adding more to this list but I thought it would be a fun goal to look forward to in 2023. What are your plans?
Wait, What Day is it?
Has procrastination gift giving got you down? Stressed about the upcoming shopping marathon? Don’t worry, I’ve got a few things that will put some ease into your last minute shopping ideas and support RVA!
It gets harder and harder each year to make those last minute holiday gift ideas happen. I decided to share some of my local favorites to consider for your gift giving ideas that are unique, thoughtful and most of all support our local RVA businesses. Have a peek…
Coffee, Tea, and Libations
The most important part of waking up is some high octane coffee in your cup. Everyone drinks, but not everyone partakes or wants to partake in adult beverages so check these out.
Local Coffee Gift Boxes from Color Wheel Coffee or Blanchards. Both also have subscription services to consider as a nice stress free gift idea. Some people would rather drink tea while spilling the Tea and a really nice “group” gift to get is some time in the T-Caf tea room. If you are looking for something to satisfy those who decided 2023 will be a sobering experience, you can put a nice gift basket with elixirs, bitters, and flavorful N/A beer choices from Ceremony or Point 5.
Baked Goods
RVA has so many good bakeries, but I will say I have discovered some fantastic new local delectables. Who doesn’t love a sweet treat every once in a while? My favorites are all self-starter, female owned businesses who launched their brick and mortars after success during Covid. I cannot say enough about Ellyn Hopper’s Fat Rabbit. She’s innovative and creates absolutely delectable goods. Veteran, Author, and Women’s Advocate, Rebekah Lynn Pierce owns Maggie’s Cupcake Cafe. She makes the most yummy goodies that will remind you of grandma’s house on Sundays. Her pies are on point! She delivers the goods and does it with a smile! Lastly, hair stylist turned baker and badass Mom, Chastity Hise along with husband, Russell opened Pies and Cakes bringing the sweet and the savory. Who doesn’t love cake and pizza! All these are worth the order and who couldn’t use a little help during special occasions? It’s a sweet gift to give friends, co-workers, and clients!
Hair Joy
Look, getting your hair done is always a fun thing. Who doesn’t love going to get pampered and then looking fantastic after? You can’t go wrong with a gift certificate to their favorite barber or hair salon. I suggest the ladies over at Rooted Hair Company, Miss Kai Block is my favorite colorist in town! A fun cut for them from Carrie at Gorilla Hair Garage is a great way to give them a fresh look, she does great kid cuts too! Guys, going to the barber can be a good time for you too, get them a nice cut and shave from Barber Of Hell’s Bottom or Mike Blendz’s.
Sassy Sauce
Now I am privileged to know some amazing chefs in town and also people who just know good flavor when they taste and make it. A really great stocking stuffer or a gift that keeps on giving are my sauce guys, Justin Cropper of Espoleta RVA and SoSS owner Tommy Tyrell know how to bring the flavor with their signature hot sauces. They have both worked real hard to bring their condimental creations to the masses.
Artful Sentiments
RVA has the MOST talented artists. Why not give them something unique and special, made just for them? Katie McBride is one of my favorites and she does RVAcentric pieces. Alix Petrie’s pieces are fun to get lost in and will look good in any home. You can find some of her artwork now at Eric Schindler Gallery. Get them some session time with Mia Artz Photography. What a great gift to give to those wanting to capture a moment in time and for a real wow experience, check out Melody Smith Portrait Gift Vouchers. I cannot tell you how amazing they will feel or opt for a couples portrait and create an heirloom piece for your home and family. And lastly, Dave Moore has always been a favorite of mine and his dreamlike art will look fantastic in any office or home space.
Experiences
I love giving experiences to my giftees. From cooking lessons to jumping out of planes, gifts that create memories are always great. Consider giving them some time at the wheel at Clayground Studio, they can make their own gifts or just enjoy a fun time creating and learning. Music lessons from a menagerie of musicians in the city, including Bravo Music Academy. Dance lessons are always fun too! Gift Certificates are always available at most locations. The Salsa Guy can teach anyone how to shake those hips! Maybe look into the AirBnB experiences or if they are on the cosmic side of things, a natal chart or tarot reading is affordable and fun. Season tickets to The Richmond Kickers is a great way for them to hang out with the locals and cheer their team to victory! Concert tickets are always fun to get as well!
Not Sure?
Yes, sometimes it’s tough, but sometimes the simplest things are the best gifts. I love a GC for my favorite grocery store. Give them some luck by getting them a FREE Rewards Card to Rosie’s Gaming and a $20 credit. Check out local gift shops like Alma’s RVA and Brookland Park Flowers and Gifts or Mongrel in Carytown.
Obviously these are just a few suggestions for last minute gifts. The most important thing is that while thinking about giving gifts, think about gifting RVA with your support for the local businesses in our beautiful city. I’ve seen so many “CLOSED” signs around town, it breaks my heart. So, let’s support our own and help these small business stay around a lot longer. Good shopping to you and happy holidays!
Gratifyingly RVA
A thank you to RVA
All Photos by: Jo Ann Breaux
RVA Proper
Since this is the month of Gratitude I wanted to express mine for RVA. I’m grateful for many things in my life and not ones I need to share on this particular month, but I thought I would point out all the things about RVA I am grateful for, so let’s slap those hands together and give thanks:
RVA, I am grateful to you for…
Our Natural Habitat. I love our topography here. From hills, to parks, to the Mighty James, we are truly blessed to have such beautiful scenery.
Our Restaurants. Sure, we have fantastic food, but the culture that was created here through the restaurant scene has been memorable and delightful.
Our Artists. I love how RVA fosters our art scene. Whether it’s the murals, VCU’s art program, or our tattooists, RVA is great at showcasing its artists. Ed Trask you are a pioneer! I enjoy doing First Fridays and I find solace in our galleries and museums.
Our Musicians. I am so grateful for RVA’s music scene. You have provided me with a lifetime of great shows and I couldn’t be more thankful. Thanks for Avail, Lamb of God, Gwar, Chance Fischer, Bio Ritmo, that Lucy Dacus chick, and so many more. I however am not grateful for the lack of venues we have for live music.
Our Neighbors. I truly feel like RVA is a place that really pulls together to help others in their time of need. From our activists, to our non-profits, to our places of worship, our neighbors help our communities thrive and that’s a beautiful thing to see.
Our Location. So grateful that we are so close to beaches, mountains, and major cities. There are so many great things to do a stone’s throw away.
Our Kevin Bacon. RVA has an uncanny ability to have usually less than 6 degrees of separation from it’s denizens. There is a vast amount of generational “…by proxy” here and it does feel nice to meet new people to discover they know your old people.
Our Outdoor Recreation. From Capital Trail to a short trip to King’s Dominion to fishing on the James to our many hiking/walking trails, RVA caters to all walks, jogs, and cycles.
Our Fans. I love our sports teams, but I love the support of the fans the most. It really is great being in a local stadium hearing RVA roar with cheers for their teams.
Our Local Business. We have such amazing business owners who provide unique experiences and wares. I love that you can get taxidermy, custom boots, and a hand sculpted planter all in one day, and top it with a stop at a local distillery while eating a locally made ice cream sandwich.
I am grateful we live in the smallest big city that has provided me with some really remarkable moments.
We are grateful to RVA for…
I asked my friends if they could be grateful to RVA for one thing, what would it be. Turns out it was harder to say just ONE thing.
“The lifelong friendships I have made through the decades have been significant in RVA. The music and art scenes have impacted my life greatly. The architecture, the parks, the river, and the hidden gems for me as well. I just contradicted my “one thing” rule.”
“GWAR”
“Friends”
“Friendsmusicbeer. One thing.”
“The River and Bernie’s Subs”
“It’s ideal. The most ideal place I’ve lived. A perfect combo of diverse friends, creativity, food, family, art, music, history (and a reconciliation of its past), lovely architecture, medium sized charm, great parks, chill vibe, beer, bikability, walkability and decent/tolerable weather most of the year.”
“Maymont Park. I really think that having a 100 acre rolling park in the middle of the city is the most beautiful and wonderful thing. You can go there and sit on a blanket for eight hours and no one cares.”
“My first visit to Richmond was as a Junior in High School, I participated in the VMFA’s 3 days in March program that brought HS art students from across the state to Richmond for a 3 day event. To this day I love the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts and visit often. This summer my daughter took a couple classes at VisArts and I’d hang out at the VMFA. Read until they opened and then wander the halls.”
“Good honest down to earth friends and the most hard working colleagues I’ve ever worked with 🙏🏽💃🏻
And of course the southern charm”
“Hollywood Cemetery where my parents are inurned.”
“Friendships”
“Friends”
“My friends.”
“Family, Friends, Food, Music, Art, & More!”
“Friends & Music…”
“Friends. The amazing outdoor places- the River, Maymont, etc.”
“College education. Tough because life long friends is important too.”
“A pretty tight/strong alternative scene.”
“Meeting my best friends there.”
“Just one? I can think of several. I love RVA!”
“Amazing, lifelong friends!”
“Very little traffic”
“That the James Runs through it!”
“For always feeling like Home, no matter how long it’s been.”
“Meeting my best friends there.”
“What a great foody town it’s become.”
“The river.”
“I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, “the James river and the trails that surrounds it, are indeed magical!”
“The James River.”
“Beautiful Park System and lovely architecture in spots.”
“My kids”
“Too many to list. So let’s complain instead. I miss the sketchy Richmond of my youth a fair bit.”
Any Way You Slice It
No matter how you slice it, we will be celebrating #NationalPizzaMonth with these local pizza joints!
Photo by: Jo Ann L Breaux | Crozet Pizza
Having lived in New York for some time, you really do get to know your pie joints. There’s the I’m going to wait in line for an hour or two place and there’s the it’s 3am, my heels are killing me, I’m drunk and I just want a slice. One of my favorite images in Williamsburg, NY was watching the late night crowd sit on the curb and devour their piping hot slices from Anna Maria’s on Bedford.
A good slice should entail the following:
Handheld Capability
Fresh Ingredients, no I do not think Pineapple belongs on pizza. Canada, we love you, but you really messed this up.
A Solid Sauce, not too sweet and not too salty
A Perfect Crust, maybe a little char on there, but definitely omitting any cardboard like quality
Cheese, for the love of all that is holy, cheese but create ribbons of melty goodness from the pie to your mouth
We here in RVA have an abundance of pizza joints worth checking out and to satisfy all tastes, from Chicago to NY style, we’ve got it! So thank you Italy for taking the Chinese invention and bringing it to what it is today—the most perfect food on Earth. To celebrate #NationalPizzaMonth, I give you my faves in the city and yes, I know there are more to mention, but these are my most frequently and loved in the city.
The Hills Have It
I have dreams of Mama Zu. I miss ordering white pizza there. I miss the grit and the overwhelming smell of garlic. I can’t think about it too much or else I will begin shedding tears over the loss of my favorite culinary delight in Richmond. Thank goodness for the Italians of RVA who created these pies of delights.
8 1/2 | The Fan | Church Hill
My hands down favorite pie in RVA. The fresh ingredients alone tantalizes the taste buds. I love grabbing this za and sitting in Scuffletown Park wolfing it down.
Dinamo | Oregon Hill
The former Mama Zu’s sweet lil cousin site, it’s no surprise they have knock your socks off pizza. Fresh and perfect and enjoyed in a quaint and warm environment.
Galley Kitchen | Stratford Hills
Not of the Mama Zu family, but of another established RVA restaurant family, Galley has some of the best pizzas I’ve ever experienced. Thanks to the talents of Giustino Riccio for bringing his masterpiece pizzas to the neighborhood diner. The Fennel and Sausage is a must have!
Pizza and Beer Have No Fear
Nothing makes a greater combo than beer and pizza and I have these places I enjoy for this.
The Hop Craft Pizza and Beer | The Fan
I love the pizza here and it’s just a bonus that they have a craft brew market adjoined to the dining area. Try the Pickleback, so good! Unique options and if you’re not feeling pizza, get their meatballs to go and add it to your favorite pasta.
PBR | The Fan | Mechanicsville
I like this place for its Fan location for the patio and to be honest the pizza is pretty solid. Sometimes I get tired of the whole “personal” pizza schtick, but if you are with a group, this place is fantastic.
Triple Crossing Beer | Fulton
I think sometimes simple is best. A good woodfire pizza at a brewery is a perfectly simplistic and go to combo. I love their pizzas a lot.
The Only Living Pizza (s) in RVA
I love New York Style pizza and it has to be foldable goodness where you need extra napkins to soak up the puddles of grease collected.
Jo-Jo’s Pizza | Downtown | Midlothian
How could I not love a pizza joint with my name? This is where I go when I’m craving The City. Their lunch special is where it’s at: 2 slices and one bevvy for about $10 (I remember when it was $6). Midlo location is open til 9pm and downtown is unfortunately just until 3pm. I love how they operate like in new york, even implementing the “NEXT!” prompt. A pizza worth a NY attitude.
Zorch Pizza | Carytown
Food truck turned brick and mortar, Zorch satisfies the New York pizza yearnings, but also tantalises your tastebuds. Fresh ingredients and Vegan pies are available!
Benny Ventano’s | The Fan
One slice will do ya, but if you are feeding an army, one pie could do the same at Benny’s. 28” of slathery goodness.
The Late Night
I don’t know about you, but there is nothing worse than having a night on the town with your friends and then the immense hunger portion of the night hits you like a ton of bricks. It’s hard enough finding food after 10 here, but finding the perfect slice won’t be as challenging.
Patrick Henry Pub & Grill | Church Hill
While you are waiting for James to make you a drink, order a thin crust personal pizza here. It’s an unsuspecting spot to enjoy a pie, but it is actually incredibly good and satisfying.
The Veteran
Mary Angela’s | Carytown
Institution, Mary Angela’s comforts me with futbol and New York style pizza and is reminiscent of my college years at VCU.
The Comfort Za
You have those days that are just lazy. You want to binge on stream and not get out of those jammies type of day? These are my go to convenient and easy spots.
Christian’s | The Fan | West End
if you can deal with the starving VCU students at the Fan location, you will get a pizza that is very tasty. Only comes in one size but you can bet they’ll be leftovers for a day or two. I love this place for the convenience, slices, and overall goodness.
Belmont Pizza | The Fan
Belmont has been a consistently great place to get a pie, nothing fancy, just simplistic delivery/pickup goodness.
To Top It Off!
A pizza is only as good as its ingredients.
Hot for Pizza | Carver
I would not expect anything less from the boys at Cobra Cabana, the novelty alone is reason to delve into this pie heaven. If you are looking for unique pizzas with flare or some great Vegan options, this is the spot. The variety of toppings and crust is enticing, my only complaint is—$6 toppings are a bit much.
A Day in the Slice
Crozet Pizza | Crozet, VA
One of my favorite things to do in the Fall is go apple picking at Chiles Peach Orchard and Farm Market in Crozet, VA. We then go over to Starr Hill and have some brews and finally we go to the best pizza spot, Crozet Pizza. I cannot say enough great things about this place. The pizza is consistently knockout good and the service is excellent. It is the perfect end to a perfect day in Crozet. Sure, you have to travel an hour and fifteen, but man is it worth the experience.
What’s Your Favorite Slice?
Roman the Yard
Capitol Opera presents “The Coronation of Poppea” featuring RVA Baroque and The Latin Ballet of Virginia.
Photos by: Jo Ann Breaux
Hosts Melissa Burgess displays her beautiful artworks
Part of what is amazing about the city we live in is its cultural arts. It’s been difficult getting back into the swing of things post pandemic isolation, but I’m determined to continue to showcase all that RVA has to offer and Saturday night was no exception.
As Marketing Director for The Latin Ballet of Virginia, I have a vision to integrate culture, community, and education into our home here. As a Realtor®, I want to be able to show clients how they can invest not only in their homes, but can also add to the growth and identity of neighborhoods and communities throughout Richmond. So what does all this have to do with Romans? Well I’ll tell you…
Melissa Burgess and husband, Geoff have a lovely home in the Southside of RVA and were very gracious in opening up their backyard to Capitol Opera’s presentation of “The Coronation of Poppea”, an Italian opera by Claudio Monteverdi telling the story of Emperor Nero and his mistress Poppea and her rise to collect the throne to become Empress of Rome. Capitol Opera, along with RVA Baroque, a musical ensemble specializing in historical instruments and techniques, and The Latin Ballet of Virginia collaborated and presented an enchanting evening of art, music, dancing and singing.
It is always amazing when you can bring neighbors or a community together to share in something special. Melissa Burgess showcased her beautiful paintings around the yard and fifty lucky audience members became enraptured with the telling of this historically driven piece. It was made even more endearing watching a neighbor set up camp in front of her window while she ate her dinner and enjoyed the show. The evening was full of serendipity and I was honored to be able to capture some moments of four very talented entities. Some of the best moments are unexpected, but discovering something new in the town you live in is magical. Catch Capitol Opera’s last two performances on July 22nd and 24th and for more information on how you can help these organizations thrive and enchant other audiences, click below.
Celebrating National Camp Month in Virginia
Celebrating National Camping Month
I’m a glamper. I’m not embarrassed. I like being able to use a bathroom with a door and avoid spiders in my hair, but I do love the fresh air and beautiful outdoor terrain of our lovely Virginia. Whether you are looking for a mountain climb or the serenity of a babbling brook, I’ve got you and your pets covered.
Check out these cool finds:
Yertastiic
It’s not necessarily roughing it, but you can enjoy a getaway weekend at Why be Square?! Blue Ridge Yurt in Floyd, VA near Claytor Lake State Park, Fairy Stone State Park. You and up to 8 guests can enjoy Biking, Hiking, and watching Wildlife.
Farm Animal Fun
Love animals and a working farm? Then Historic Hobby Farm is the place for you! 125 acres with three tent sites and 1 lodging site, this place will have you cuddling goats and eating fresh eggs on site!
Let’s Commune
This 20 acre horse farm in Afton, VA will make you breathe in and breathe out with relaxation. Galleywinter Farm boasts a multitude of terrain including Forest and Mountainous areas. We ride at sunset!
Camping on the Bay
Blackwater Creek has 10 tent/RV sites for your coastal pleasure. Enjoy Biking, Boating, Fishing, Hiking, Paddling, Swimming, Wildlife watching while taking in breathtaking sunsets.
Through the Woods and Down the Creek
I have personally stayed at The Meadows at Chigger Creek and have nothing but good things to say about it. There are two sites to choose from with friendly hosts and a creek full of fish. A great place to “rough it” for the first time.
For more great campsites in Virginia, visit HipCamp and start your adventure today!
A Great Way to Feed Your Soul
Give a little feed a lot…Meal Kit Donations you can easily do!
Step One:
In ONE bag (whichever size works best for your specific meal) assemble all the ingredients for a meal that has at least 4 servings and a desert mix.
Please do not overfill the bag. If it doesn't fit, we ask you provide a larger bag.
Step Two:
After placing all ingredients in the bag; please place a copy of clear instructions for the recipe inside of the bag to further support families when they are assembling their meal.
Step Three:
Once you have your donations assembled, drop them off at our drop off location.
Some Kit Ideas
Here are a few recipe ideas, if you have any simple, healthy all dry goods recipes feel free to contact me with it!
Pasta
Whole Grain Pasta
Minced Garlic
Canned Tuna or Chicken
Lemon
Parmesan
Red Pepper Flakes
Olive Oil
Fruit or Dessert
Lentils and Rice
Dried Lentils
Dried Minced Onions
Instant Brown Rice
Minced Garlic
Canned Chicken
Fruit or Dessert
Spam Skewers
Spam
Canned Pineapple
White Wine Vinegar
Instant Rice or Quinoa
Skewer Sticks
Fruit or Dessert
Mexican Salad
Canned Diced Tomatoes
Canned Black or Pinto Beans
Canned Corn
Canned Chicken
Cilantro Lime Dressing
Tostitos Queso Blanco
Tortilla Chips
Fruit or Dessert
Crab and Shells
Velveeta Shells and Cheese (white)
Canned Crabmeat
Parsley Flakes
Diced tomatoes
Fruit or Dessert
Canned and Dried Ingredients You may have Forgotten
Canned Cheeses
Canned Meats like Spam, Tuna, Chicken, Salmon
Bacon Bits
Canned Vegetables like Olives, Asian Stir-Fry Veggies, and Lentils
Using Dressings as Marinades
Chickpeas are versatile
Boxed Milks don’t have to be refrigerated
Vegetable and Chicken Broths or Bouillon
Our Drop-off Location!
Once you have created your meal kits, we will be collecting your donations in our office at:
2930 W. Broad St. Richmond, VA 23230 - Suite E
On the Corner of Broad & Altamont.
We will be accepting donations on October 19th from 10am - 4pm & October 20th from 12pm - 6pm
Hola RVA!
Celebrating National Hispanic Heritage
My mom and me, circa 1978)
It was not an easy road for my Panamanian mother coming into this country. She had to maneuver around a difficult language (yes, English is way harder to learn than Spanish), bear the insults and the slurs because of her skin tone and accent, and learn a new culture while abandoning some of her own. She also knew no one in this foreign land called America, all with a three year old baby and Cajun-American husband in the deep south in the 1970s.
My mother got her GED, and then went on to get her college degree in business. She is a master seamstress, a hard negotiator, and is the best chef of any experience I’ve had. She will tell you to “go to hell” in her accomplished English if someone tells her to go back where she came from, and she took two kids, came to Virginia and made an entire life for herself here. That includes buying two homes since moving here in 1986. Basically, my mom is fierce.
I’m incredibly proud of my ethnic background and even though I cannot claim my Latin heritage fully due to having Cajun and Asian in the mix, Panama is the land I was born in and it is where my maternal family resides. It is also the side I gravitate towards the most—um, dancing, good food, and passion? Who doesn’t want to claim that?! We all come from beautifully diverse countries, rich in culture, bio-diversity, language, and peoples.
A Latin home is a warm one and I’m so proud that my work home promotes the same. These agents miss many things about their Latin American homes, like authentic food and their families (I know I miss mine). So, not only have they’ve made a successful life here, but they also help others gain homeownership success. Ten percent of Virginia’s population is made up the Hispanic community with 16,805 (Census 2019) living and contributing to RVA. We have a thriving community within the arts, business, government, and a plethora of restaurants! Let’s celebrate #NationalHispanicHeritageMonth with pride and support for LatinX residents!
Joanna Rodriguez, Venezuela
Joanna is a boss agent. With 10 years in real estate and a 30 year resident of RVA, Joanna lives in the Short Pump area with her dog and son. She loves the food scene here and her ability to build relationships with her Spanish and English clients has been a solid asset.
Angel Campverde, Ecuador
Angel has lived in the US for 12 years and is a sweetheart of an agent. He’s been practicing for the past year. This nature lover enjoys spending time in Shenandoah National Park and Chesapeake Bay.
Daniela Queen, Bolivia
Daniela is a Queen when it comes to her real estate abilities. Her 16 year residency in the US brought her to RVA where she enjoys the setting and events of Forest Hill Park. Daniela has been an agent for almost three years now and she kills it.
Mi Familia
These are my RVA Hispanic brothers and sisters. I’m happy that I know all these wonderful people from Mexico, Puerto Rico, Colombia, Peru, and Venezuela, a myriad of artists, educators, musicians and chefs. (Click photos to learn more about these asombroso individuals).
- Jo Ann L. Breaux
Mother MAY I?
Being a Realtor mom has it’s challenges, but the rewards are far greater than any career I’ve had…
I remember coming home from school and putting the key in the door to let myself in. Mom hadn’t been back from work yet, but once she did, she was confronting a pile of stacked up clothes to be altered for the local department store. All day long she was at the manufactory sewing hems on suit pants. She worked long, painful hours and there wasn’t a lot of times for stories or playtime with her. Her impeccable work ethic had a lot to do with her Panamanian-Chinese upbringing and I grew up with her advising that I save ever penny, “You never know what’s going to happen, so be prepared.” Those words have echoed in my head for a lifetime.
Since I'm a broker and flip houses my world can feel upside down some days. I've learned to hire people and trust they will do as good as a job as I would. Take me time without guilt and I'm still learning to say no when needed. Honestly, I love challenges and instant gratification in everything I do. So real estate hits all the Hotspots. Plus, who doesn’t like the financial freedom from the investment side. I'm teaching my kids generational wealth and breaking generational curses. - Joan Small, RVA Group Realty
I never had children unfortunately, I do however have a step-daughter who doesn’t understand the stretch of a dollar or what it is to struggle to eat every day. What I do have the luxury of is giving her my time. I’m able to pick her up when I need to, to hang out and play with her when she wants and take her along to open houses. She is seriously the best PR rep I could ask for. Being in Real Estate allows a lot of women to have full careers, make ends meet, and have time to be there for their kids. I couldn’t imagine giving my kids the fair treatment and time they deserved while working in advertising or being a paralegal. I cannot tell you how many times I had to stay after hours to meet some ridiculous deadline, and if I decided otherwise I may have not have had the career I strived for. The American Dream—work hard, move up the ladder. Let’s be frank here, that tends to be a bunch of horse poop.
“At first it was super challenging to be a mother and a realtor. After being a full time mother and yoga teacher, adjustments had to be made for the whole family. Like many working moms I felt some guilt about juggling my time and it was hard for me to prioritize. Over time we have all adjusted and I have learned to switch gears and be present with my family when I’m with my family and be present with my clients when I’m with my clients. Yoga helps a lot! It has definitely provided our family with some extra opportunities that we are grateful for and I really do enjoy finding people homes in a city that I love. “ - Kelly Trask, One South Realty
I have loved my new career in real estate because it gives me personal freedom. It is a job where I’m accountable and I am my own boss, but most of all, it is a job I am able to make my own time. There are some downsides to that as well as I’m sure every realtor mom can relate to. I’m only a part-time mom and I’m sure my experience is different than my full-time mama duty colleagues. Weekends can be difficult with showings and open houses. Also, you have to consider your clients’ needs. If they want to see a house in two hours, you have to be able to accommodate those schedules, and sometimes plans are broken at home. I think we all struggle with saying no sometimes in addition to putting boundaries in place. There is the reward though, to be able to take a vacation for a week and literally be present or to be able to take a day and focus your attention on your children rather than being tied to a desk is a great feeling that not a lot of people have the privilege of experiencing.
It gave me opportunity to accommodate my schedule and arrange it around my husbands so that always one of us would stay home with the kids while they took online classes. As time went by and market got crazier it got a little bit more complicate it because even though I can still accommodate my schedule it seems like I’m never home, no weekend, anytime any day, I can’t really make plans ahead of time because I have to be there for my clients. - Daniela Queen, RVA Group Realty
Kids are hard. They just are. We as agents work from our home offices a lot of the time and sometimes it’s hard if you have little ones scurrying about while you are trying to write a contract. I have some realtor friends who are incredibly strict with setting boundaries for their businesses because they don’t want any interference into their home life. If you are making a lot of sales it’s easy to have that priority, but i you are an agent starting out or not as busy, it can be very difficult telling your client you can’t meet them at 6pm because you are having dinner with your family, in your head, you don’t want to lose them.
The challenges of mommydom and being an agent are, to me, far less than other careers. You do have the ability to maneuver schedules and be effective/productive remotely. The key is to organize and prioritize, find a schedule that works for you so you can spend time being a mom and a great agent. We’re women, we can usually get our lipstick on while on a conference call, flipping pancakes and packing little Johnny’s lunch, all while wearing heels. And this is why we make fantastic agents. Kids also make great helpers in our business, they love to pass out flyers, drop off popbys, and they come up with the best suggestions for rooms.
So, to all my Mama Bear Agents, you’re doing a great job and remember that the rewards of this career will allow that Disney vacay or that European trip you’ve always wanted to take them on. Now you can go back to your superheroine’ing.
So, You're Getting a Divorce...
It’s an ugly word, but it doesn’t have to be an ugly process…
Yeah, it’s not words we want to speak of, unless you’re super happy about going your separate ways. Covid has definitely put a magnifying glass on many marriages and the result has been revealing. Nobody likes divorce. It’s hard and it’s emotionally draining, no matter if it’s amicable or a knock down dragged out fight. One thing is for sure the last thing you want to think about in all of it is selling your home and you might not have to, but you may definitely want to.
Divorce is quite a common motivation for a listing, and because it is so common, Agents see a lot of the same things. For example, more than likely one person is chomping at the bit to sell and the other is less motivated. Why even get rid of the property? Simply put, a lot of couples want a fresh start or don’t want to be reminded of the life they built there. In the end, you’ll both have to work together to see it through. The ultimate goal is for you both to close one chapter so you can start another.
“Your dreams don’t have an expiration date.”
An Agent. Picking the right agent to sell your home during this time can be an obstacle. You might not want to use Sally Doolittle who helped you both buy the current residence. You may want to use someone totally neutral and unknown to make things fair and straightforward. You might want to use one agent to sell and another to buy. Whoever you both decide on, make sure they are clear on the climate they are walking into. That agent should also be empathetic and patient, sometimes they will need to have two separate meetings. They should be communicative and also thick skinned to deal with runaway emotions not intentionally sent in their direction. If they are a good agent, they will be intuitive, willing to listen, and help mediate.
“You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one.”
Listing Prep. This is the hard part. Nobody wants to do it—the cleaning, the packing, the purging, the rummaging through lost memories. It’s hard, especially if you’ve been there for a significant amount of time. Allow yourself to work through the process. Make sure to give yourself some time to take a break and a breath when you need to. Chances are, one of you has already moved out, which will make things slightly easier, but if not, maybe delegate some tasks so you aren’t in each others faces if it’s awkward or hostile. Also, your agent should be able to help you schedule things like cleanings, landscaping, and repairs.
Time. The sooner the better right? Not always. In this market it wouldn’t be too difficult to get a sooner closing date. Most closings happen in 45 days but these days it can be sooner depending on your loan process. You might have a situation where you need to work on selling one property to be able to buy/move into another. There are also the pros and cons of selling before and after you’re divorced that could potentially delay the divorce itself. You’ll have to decide on what’s going to suit your situation, and also be the most cost effective, efficient, and amiable.
Children. This is also something to consider when you decide to sell your home during a divorce. Sometimes it’s less painful to sell a home to maintain normalcy for the kids, but other times it’s better to have everyone just start anew. Also, moving with kids (depending on age) can be tumultuous when deciding on school district changes and maybe needing assistance if it’s a sole move, so you can have time to go through things without any distractions.
In the End comes a New Beginning. Take it from someone who is a divorcée, it is hard no matter what and adding the loss of a home is another piece that’ll rip you apart sometimes. You may not want to buy a new home, you may want to get yourself that new single person rental in the city you’ve been dreaming about or maybe you want to test out some new neighborhoods you’ve been curious about until you feel you can commit again. Getting the biggest buyout would be an ideal way for you to get the home you’ve always wanted, shoe closets and all! You now have some options and that’s the positive part —the blank canvas.
“Divorce is a declaration of independence with only two signers.”
No matter what the end entails, including collecting the half proceeds from the sale of your “marital home”, you get to start over. You get to have the basement bar you’ve always wanted, or the art studio free of storage items you’ve dreamed about. You get your own space with new paint, new art, new furniture and all while blasting that record they hated you listening to for the past 15 years. Sure, all wounds take time to heal, but it doesn’t have to be all painful. The most important thing to remember is to be communicative, be willing to work together one last time, and keep the end goal in mind —a new beginning.
The Colors of My Life
Colors are so powerful when it comes to setting a mood, selling or buying a house, or capturing a feeling…
All My Colors (in order): My house exterior, My house interior, the velvet blue furniture I’m dreaming of, the black that comes with the Aston Martin, and Valentino red I love to don as frequently as possible.
You know when you’re dreaming and something catches your eye and it leaves you with such a desire that you want it to become part of you? That’s how I feel about color. I’m sure all you design freaks are in the know that Pantone chose not one, but two colors of the year for 2021. I guess since 2020 was such a dull grey that had to spice things up. Funny enough they chose Illuminating Yellow and Ultimate Gray, how contrary and a good depiction of the past and future.
“Sherwin-Williams sets revenue records as DIY paint sales jump during pandemic.”
I’ve always found yellow to be an abhorrent color. I felt the only places it looked good on were lemons, bananas and the sun, but I’ve started to warm up a little to certain shades. Anyone who is familiar with my brand, knows I am a color loyalist — red and black will most likely be my go-to when choosing representation and clothing. My mother hated my goth phase in high school, “You know in Panama prostitutes wear black!” It gave me great satisfaction putting a sole red bandana in my hair to satisfy her discontent. I did however go through a strong purple phase, especially with hair colors (mom loved that). Each time I wear red I am complimented highly. It suits my passions, my culture, and my eye. Black, well, black says bold, it makes a statement that is serious, yet chic and I like that. I think after my obsession of wanting to fit in, becoming a slave to the United Colors of Benetton, it only seemed logical that my rebellious side take over, leaving black as my only option to convey how I was feeling (angsty) and besides, what color displayed The Cure and Depeche Mode better?
The memory of color is etched in my brain. I can remember the shade of green our 1970’s leather living room couch wore and I remember the electric blue hot pants my neighbor wore on her first day of high school. I recall only choosing the Midnight Blue crayon to shade my Fashion Plates’ designs until it diminished, unusable, and wished they had more than one in there. I still love that color to this day. I know I cringe at the sight of pastels, and coral seems to incite a certain gag reflex in me. I met a girl once who had Synesthesia and I was so fascinated that every time she would see or think of numbers it was a different color. I giggled as I asked her what painting by numbers was like. When I used to see gold in homes, it used to make me think of chintzy, gaudy things, now it has become a marketable trend. I think it’s safe to say that colors can remark an era of time, think turquoise and yellow kitchens of the 1950s, but who knew that a shade of pink could define an entire generation?
Color invokes emotion, memory and sets a mood. It is a factor in why some houses sell and others don’t. If I do a walkthrough for an upcoming listing and the walls are painted with an unattractive color, I tell them they need to paint. I’ve had clients pass on a bid because they didn’t like the color of the house, even though they could very well paint it the color of their dreams. I showed a house once that had a beautiful dining area with Emerald green accented walls accompanied with vintage wallpapering. I had to remind my clients to see the rest of the house before putting an offer, they loved that room so much.
We, as Agents, tend to steer listers towards neutrals, but I don’t hesitate to add color as a future option for my purchasers. It helps them set an individual tone to their home and envision what it could be. We are currently in a moody, vivid trend with home paint colors, which I am loving. I like to see a bathroom that’s painted black with brass fixtures, or a dining room that has a darker shade of blue on it’s walls. I think it pops and creates a unique atmosphere. When I lived in New York, I painted the living room this burnt sienna color and had warm hues and textures adorning it, think Morocco. We never had a guest who stayed awake in that room, there was always at least one person who fell asleep peacefully in a room full of people. I was proud to create that reaction because it meant my home was that comfortable.
Photo by: Homes & Gardens
Trends or no trends, color is an important aspect to home. It helps us express who we are and how we want others to feel. It’s powerful in it’s aesthetic and what it does to your psyche. I view color the way I view art, I feel it. If I walk into a room and I see Drunk Tank Pink, I’m going to instantly hurl. As you can deduce, pink is not my favorite color. Technology has made it so easy to create colors that are one of a kind or mock that of a bird or a classic car you love. So much inspiration, so little space! So, as the weather starts to warm up and you’re making your list of home improvements this Spring, think about how you want your house to look, inside and out. If you are thinking about selling this year, it’s a perfect time for you to be picking out your curb appealing shades. In the meantime, enjoy the blue skies, golden sun, and budding greens we are currently having, we’re due for a more colorful kind of year, no?