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We're Going to the Backyard and We're...Gonna Get Married
It’s #NationalWeddingMonth and what better way to save duckets by having your celebration…
“For me it was holding onto the magic of it all. What woman doesn’t want to sip her tea or coffee in the morning while gazing upon the spot she said “I Do”.”
Photo by: Jo Ann Breaux
Kai and Sam Parker tied the knot at their gorgeous historic farmhouse last year.
It’s February, which means love is in the air and it’s officially National Weddings Month. February does own the most weddings to a single day. The trajectory of matrimony has evolved in recent times. No longer are couples waiting to buy homes after they tie the knot and couples are being more cost conscious when thinking about the thousands of dollars spent on a one day event.
Think about it. Would you rather start your life together in debt or would you rather have a budgeted wedding day where you can maybe take a fantastic honeymoon or maybe save for a future endeavor? I love a backyard wedding. There’s so much you can do without the hassle of extra costs or stress from dealing with vendors to time restraints to transportation. Home is where the heart is in this scenario. As of 2022, the average cost of a wedding in the United States is $30,000, which includes the ceremony and reception and that’s only in some states. Depending on where you are, you could be looking at 40K+ for your big day. Imagine how much you could within your home for that much! I don’t—thank you very much.
Here are a few money saving ideas for your backyard wedding, but remember, it is about what you want in the end.
Local Author Ward Howarth and wife of 20 years, Amy had a beautiful and intimate wedding.
“It felt more personal, less formal. No rules, just more like us.”
Lights: You can’t go wrong with a dusky wedding. Ground lanterns to light up walkways or hanging jars with electric candles. And of course string lights will work nicely for the occasion.
Picnic: A great idea is having a picnic wedding in the backyard. Having blankets strewn about as you lay about for the happy couple.
Projectors: Using a projector to provide a slideshow backdrop can be sentimental and fun.
Trees: Trees are great for swings, hanging lights, photos, fabrics, and are great to hold a laundry line where guest can pin up the polaroids or sentimental notes.
Privacy Fences: These are great to hang family photos, lights, or use as a photo backdrop.
Food: Use a local caterer or make it a potluck, it doesn’t have to be from a Michelin star restaurant so make it easy.
“We were about to make a life together. We loved our house and it just felt like the natural thing to do. It is a memory that is etched into where we live and love.”
Have a look at these RVA backyard lovebirds!
Karen and Doug had an intimate ceremony in their backyard and then did it again in Poe’s.
Kristy and Keith Rader opted for the front yard underneath their pretty magnolia tree—how Southern of y’all.
Victoria and Joe Deroche did the casual thing with her children by their sides under the pergola.
Austen and Savannah vowed to have a great time with their fun backyard nuptials.
For more simple and budget friendly ideas:
Where the Magic Happens
Enjoy these bedroom ideas to inspire and arouse your sacred slumber chambers.
I love my bedroom. I spent a majority of my childhood sharing a bedroom with my younger brother, and although his sleepwalking adventures were fascinating and our bunk bed shenanigans were delightful, moving from a three bedroom childhood home to a two bedroom apartment deemed challenging. As I progressed into teendom and the wearing out of every Cure tape I had, my mother ended up on a couch while my brother settled into his own space. Twas hard times back then.
As an adult, I long for the day of having all matching furniture, an accent wall, and room for a chaise lounge and ensuite bathroom to call my own. Let’s not forget a walk-in closet that i can actually see my clothes and shoes in. Sigh, bedrooms are for dreaming right?
I think we can all agree that the intimacy a bedroom can provide is also the intimacy it can provoke. It is February people! But seriously, bedrooms should be a place of relaxation, fantasy, a place to be pensive and quiet, and provide you with your own private sanctuary. Here are some bedroom ideas for you to sleep on:
Textured Accent Walls
We’ve stared at four walls for quite some time now and the bedroom is no different. Creating a textured accent wall can add depth and really showcase that dreamy furniture of yours and it’s an easy DIY project! Make different patterns and be creative.
Pendant Lighting
Lighting in a bedroom is everything! I love the look of hanging pendant lights and the variety of styles and shapes is aplenty. My only qualm about this one is if you are anything like me and want to switch your bed elsewhere in six months, moving lighting around can be difficult. The look is stunning though!
Wallpaper Accented Walls
When you want to be able to change up your background, go with easily interchangeable wallpaper to create a dramatic effect.
Upholstered and Shapely Headboards
Bespoke headboards are making a comeback and in gorgeous colors and textures. Headboards in general are making their way back into the scene with cool shapes and bold patterns that make spotlighting your restful slumber unique and expressive. They are also easy to DIY your own creations.
Painted and Textured Furniture
Bring pops of color into the bedroom with muted, colorful or textured furniture. We are still seeing deep rich woods, but color adds some pizzazz to your space.
Time to get to work and bring some magical refresh skills to your boudoir. Find your bedroom style, whether it’s moody and dark or light and bright. Visit estate sales and upcycled shops to find unique pieces you can refinish and make your own. Check out some local artists, and give your bedroom walls a little oomph. RVA has so many great woodworkers, artisans, and designers to make for a very comfortable and sacred place. Nighty, nighty!
Virginia is for Courting
Our rocky past has grown into a great love story…
Photo by: Stephen Poore
Dear VA,
I’ve been reminiscing about how we came to be since it is a time of devoted reflection. Do you remember when I met you in 1986. We didn’t hit it off right away. You tempted me with beautiful scenery and a good school, but you also had these weird phrases and your cooking was terrible! I was forced to be with you and so we did not begin in the best of times.
I finally got rid of you after so many on and off again romances. In 2005, I decided our toxic relationship would offer me nothing but a warm barstool and another dead end job, so I ended it and left you for good (or so I thought). For five years I put you behind me, but we still had a connection that my love affair with New York could not fulfill. The fates had other plans for us and as New York left me cold and abandoned, I sought refuge in your arms.
It took me about a year to feel comfortable within you, but as I acclimated with old friends and familiar surroundings, it was your new personality that began to woo me. You had new people in your life from bigger cities like NYC, Dallas, and Los Angeles. You were wearing new clothes shedding the Commonwealth khakis of old. You showed me what it was to discover new territory with parks and landmarks I hadn’t visited before. And then, you gave me great joy satiating my appetite with culinary delights and beer, lots and lots of beer. You started building boutique hotels and gave my friends success in new buildings and businesses. You brought song back into my life with new local musicians and venues and gave me new haunts to meet new people and visit old ones. All the things I hated about you before, you replaced with charm, nostalgia, and hope, but most of all you gave me a new love.
Our union has grown a lot since reluctantly returning to your border 10 years ago, and I am now quite proudly crossing your bridges, strolling your landscape, and seeing you for the first time. It has given me much joy residing in your beautiful city of RVA and providing diverse neighborhoods, thriving communities, and cool things to do. I think you and I have a great future ahead of us…now if you could only stop with the roundabouts, segregated classes, and people obsessed with the Confederacy, you and I can finally ride off into the sunset.
xoxo,
Lady J