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2023, RIC, and Me
A new beginning of RVA love…
Photo by: Jo Ann Breaux, Mural Walk | Downtown RVA
Welcome to 2023 y’all! I’m not a big resolution gal, but I am a “let’s improve on this” one. One of the things I’ve noticed is that people are not getting out. I think because Covid left us where we are, some of us are having a harder time, or perhaps an easier time enjoying the comforts of our homes. I get it, I definitely haven’t been as motivated to go out and when i do, I find myself in quite awkward verbal exchanges. I’ve never had that problem before. So, basically things have changed.
I’ve been thinking about that and how I want to improve my business, but also improve my relationship. No, not with my partner, but my relationship with my lover—RVA. The thing I’ve loved most about Covid, (can I say that?), is that I delved into exploring different areas around VA and I’ve decided I want to do more of that, but also do things around Richmond I’ve never done before. That’s the thing, isn’t it? I’ve known some people who’ve lived their entire lives in Richmond and don’t come Downtown or to the Fan even. So, I thought I’d share some RVAcentric things I want to do that I haven’t done in my 32 years in our lovely city. What will you do?
The Observation Deck
It’s temporarily closed but hopefully will reopen soon. I’d always heard about it but never been.
Virginia Museum of History and Culture
Yes, I know, insane I’ve never been here
Picnic at VMFA
I sometimes forget what a beautiful set this is for picnicking and journaling
The Veil and Nokoribi
My friends at Longoven and The Veil have created this amazing space for their new venture and I cannot wait to experience it!
Wheel Time at Clayground
I’ve never made anything pottery like in my life, so I want to create something in this medium!
Visit the ICA
I drive by it all the time, but never thought to actually go inside.
Some Bike Tour of RVA
Seems dumb for someone who has lived her to do a “tour” but I happen to think that this is a great opportunity to learn more about where I live and a great way to see the city on bike, in addition to photo ops.
I’ll probably be adding more to this list but I thought it would be a fun goal to look forward to in 2023. What are your plans?
Gratifyingly RVA
A thank you to RVA
All Photos by: Jo Ann Breaux
RVA Proper
Since this is the month of Gratitude I wanted to express mine for RVA. I’m grateful for many things in my life and not ones I need to share on this particular month, but I thought I would point out all the things about RVA I am grateful for, so let’s slap those hands together and give thanks:
RVA, I am grateful to you for…
Our Natural Habitat. I love our topography here. From hills, to parks, to the Mighty James, we are truly blessed to have such beautiful scenery.
Our Restaurants. Sure, we have fantastic food, but the culture that was created here through the restaurant scene has been memorable and delightful.
Our Artists. I love how RVA fosters our art scene. Whether it’s the murals, VCU’s art program, or our tattooists, RVA is great at showcasing its artists. Ed Trask you are a pioneer! I enjoy doing First Fridays and I find solace in our galleries and museums.
Our Musicians. I am so grateful for RVA’s music scene. You have provided me with a lifetime of great shows and I couldn’t be more thankful. Thanks for Avail, Lamb of God, Gwar, Chance Fischer, Bio Ritmo, that Lucy Dacus chick, and so many more. I however am not grateful for the lack of venues we have for live music.
Our Neighbors. I truly feel like RVA is a place that really pulls together to help others in their time of need. From our activists, to our non-profits, to our places of worship, our neighbors help our communities thrive and that’s a beautiful thing to see.
Our Location. So grateful that we are so close to beaches, mountains, and major cities. There are so many great things to do a stone’s throw away.
Our Kevin Bacon. RVA has an uncanny ability to have usually less than 6 degrees of separation from it’s denizens. There is a vast amount of generational “…by proxy” here and it does feel nice to meet new people to discover they know your old people.
Our Outdoor Recreation. From Capital Trail to a short trip to King’s Dominion to fishing on the James to our many hiking/walking trails, RVA caters to all walks, jogs, and cycles.
Our Fans. I love our sports teams, but I love the support of the fans the most. It really is great being in a local stadium hearing RVA roar with cheers for their teams.
Our Local Business. We have such amazing business owners who provide unique experiences and wares. I love that you can get taxidermy, custom boots, and a hand sculpted planter all in one day, and top it with a stop at a local distillery while eating a locally made ice cream sandwich.
I am grateful we live in the smallest big city that has provided me with some really remarkable moments.
We are grateful to RVA for…
I asked my friends if they could be grateful to RVA for one thing, what would it be. Turns out it was harder to say just ONE thing.
“The lifelong friendships I have made through the decades have been significant in RVA. The music and art scenes have impacted my life greatly. The architecture, the parks, the river, and the hidden gems for me as well. I just contradicted my “one thing” rule.”
“GWAR”
“Friends”
“Friendsmusicbeer. One thing.”
“The River and Bernie’s Subs”
“It’s ideal. The most ideal place I’ve lived. A perfect combo of diverse friends, creativity, food, family, art, music, history (and a reconciliation of its past), lovely architecture, medium sized charm, great parks, chill vibe, beer, bikability, walkability and decent/tolerable weather most of the year.”
“Maymont Park. I really think that having a 100 acre rolling park in the middle of the city is the most beautiful and wonderful thing. You can go there and sit on a blanket for eight hours and no one cares.”
“My first visit to Richmond was as a Junior in High School, I participated in the VMFA’s 3 days in March program that brought HS art students from across the state to Richmond for a 3 day event. To this day I love the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts and visit often. This summer my daughter took a couple classes at VisArts and I’d hang out at the VMFA. Read until they opened and then wander the halls.”
“Good honest down to earth friends and the most hard working colleagues I’ve ever worked with 🙏🏽💃🏻
And of course the southern charm”
“Hollywood Cemetery where my parents are inurned.”
“Friendships”
“Friends”
“My friends.”
“Family, Friends, Food, Music, Art, & More!”
“Friends & Music…”
“Friends. The amazing outdoor places- the River, Maymont, etc.”
“College education. Tough because life long friends is important too.”
“A pretty tight/strong alternative scene.”
“Meeting my best friends there.”
“Just one? I can think of several. I love RVA!”
“Amazing, lifelong friends!”
“Very little traffic”
“That the James Runs through it!”
“For always feeling like Home, no matter how long it’s been.”
“Meeting my best friends there.”
“What a great foody town it’s become.”
“The river.”
“I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, “the James river and the trails that surrounds it, are indeed magical!”
“The James River.”
“Beautiful Park System and lovely architecture in spots.”
“My kids”
“Too many to list. So let’s complain instead. I miss the sketchy Richmond of my youth a fair bit.”
Time for Growth and Giving
Support our local restauranteur, Terrence O’Neill (Penny Lane Pub) as he begins his facial growth for charity!
Every year around this time, I encourage the gift of giving. This year my candidate is Terence O’Neill and his ‘Stache endeavors for charity with M4K Richmond. I’ve know this favorite person of mine for over 30 years and he owns one of my favorite pubs in RVA, Penny Lane. I adore his family, and his staff has always been excellent to me for many a nightcap, happy hour, and footy match (Go LFC!). I’m asking you all to support him and in turn support a local business as he takes his bald face into a progressive mouth brow — For the children!
Let’s support Terence and his attempt for Ted Lasso lip broom status, and I’m hoping you will join in. Here’s his message:
Terry O’Neil, Owner of Penny Lane Pub
Clean Shaven and Ready for Donations
Last year I joined some neighborhood gentlemen in a wonderful charity endeavor. I have since realized how big this actually is. M4K Richmond, Mustaches For Kids, is a huge nationwide organization. If you were part of my facebook page you know (some of you new additions are about to find out) that last year I grew a mustache for M4K Richmond in the hopes that I can raise money for the many Children's Charities here in Richmond that they represent. Before looking forward to this growing season I would be remiss if I didn't take a moment to look back at what we did last year, and how your donations had a major impact.
Last year the growers of M4K Richmond raised over $500,000 for charities here in Richmond! Think about that, a bunch of guys growing mustaches and drinking beer managed to raise over $500,000 for children in need. That would not be possible if it wasn't for the generous donations from those who support us, so thank you. Because of your donations we were able to present some seriously large checks, both in physical size and monetary value:
Richmond Friends of the Homeless $80,000
ASK Childhood Cancer Foundation $140,000
SCAN (Stop Child Abuse Now) $60,000
Feed More $40,000
and more!
Those impressive numbers have given me the strength to shave my face, and pledge to only allow the hairs on my upper lip to be the ones that the world sees. Sure there are more socially acceptable facial hair options like the ever popular full beard, the "I'm only half committed" 5 O'Clock shadow, humble Goatee, or even the somehow non-spiritual Soul Patch. But those don't quite make the same statement as the mustache, so here we go. I will be sending you weekly updates on my progress along with photo or video proof, and encouraging you to donate to my fundraising page.
Donate to Terrence’s Stache Growth or Join the Cause
Quarantine Chronicles: Fist City Fashion
Our RVA is full of talented people, but since staying at home has lead me back to my passion for fashion, I thought you all might want to get to know these local fashion stars.
You’re probably wondering, why the hell would she write about Fashion as a real estate agent? I have a few reasons:
Fashion as an art form can influence not just what you wear, but how you decorate a space. Do you seriously doubt that Boho fashion has not inspired mixed printed rugs and furniture in a home or that animal print has never seen its way into a living room (have you talked to Carole Baskin?).
It’s important to lift our community, no matter the industry. We celebrate our RVA!
I’ve been binging the hell out of Making the Cut and streaming Fashion Week Runway shows, truth!
My favorite toy growing up with Tomy Toys Fashion Plates. I spent hours mixing and matching plates with adding cool patterns to my creations. I had been doodling dress designs all my life. With a mother just as obsessed with fashion and design, it was no surprise that my path would lead me to…Real Estate! Sometimes you win some and sometimes your dreams turn into something entirely different.
So, while I get a boost to my creativity during this time, I thought it would be appropriate to give some of our very own, home-grown talent the spotlight. Maybe while we are all living this quiet life, it might inspire some of you to think of your own designs you’d want to have made for your personal collection.
Photo by LadyJRVA
Cate Latham of Van Herten Outerwear
What I love about Cate? Not only did she do costume design for Richmond Ballet, but she has also designed for GWAR and teaches at VCU where she graduated in Fashion Design. Her utilitarian chic brings simplicity, well constructed and comfortable pieces to the forefront and her leatherwork designs would give any tradesman legit respect. I adore Cate and her designs so much, she’s designing my wedding gown!
Ron and Lisa Rider of Rider Boot Co.
Wallets, Boots, and Bags, Oh My! What Ron and Lisa Rider create is magical. Exquisite constructions and design work, Lisa has created a bag series of late that is fashionably gorgeous. I cannot say enough about this husband-wife duo. Their custom boot designs are equally hot and I can’t wait to add some to my wardrobe. While you’re internet shopping during this time, defnitely check out their unique wares.
Michael Ames of X Of Pentacles
Michael and I share an unknown bond of tragedy, but we both rose to the occasion out of the ashes. Michael’s brand, X of Pentacles is the ONLY brand in Virginia to offer REAL Bespoke suiting, and one of the few in the entire USA. His scarf and pocket square designs are fun, vibrant and cool. They make me want to revive Rizzo’s style for the 21st century. Beautiful Italian, vintage tailored suits custom-made for that guy who wants to show off a little something different.
Mateo Ascencio Silvan of M.A.S.
This kid. I mean, with his Latino flair and the fact that his initials literally mean more in Spanish, how can you not know he was meant for great things. Still in high school at George Wythe, this young designer has me appreciating not only my culture, but loving his entire take-on-the-world spirit. His designs are fun, vibrant, and I’m looking forward to his future endeavors. If only I had one of him to design my prom dress,
How Do I Love Thee, Let Me Consume the Ways…
Your month of love has begun! Check out these spots to impress and enjoy a great first or 51st date in RVA.
I had a rule when I was in the dating game—never eat on the first date. People questioned this, but the truth is, in my opinion, eating with someone is an intimate act. It is one of vulnerability and surrendering of the senses. It’s also awkward at times sitting with a stranger while chewing politely the meal that may, or may not be paid for, interviewing for the position of Executive Companion. I think there’s different levels of dining experiences depending on where you are in the relationship. I mean think about it, are you at the point where you can snag a bite from your partners plate or are you staying away from handheld foods? And, although we hope our partners are excellent cooks in the kitchen, we have been quite favored to have some of the best restaurants in the country.
Finding places for romantic dinners is easy in a place so saturated by delicious meals. So, no matter what “base” you’re at, you can find savory morsels, romantic settings, and casual comforts. Here are a few of my favorites because let’s face it, the date could bomb, but at least your stomach will be happy
First Base
“Wait, what’s a nice place like you doing in a girl like this?”
Don’t Look Back
Whatcha Doin’?Little Nickel
A little for you and a little for me.Helen’s
Slow and low that is the tempo.8 1/2 at Scuffletown Park
Getting to know you, getting to know all about you.La Bodega
I’ve got the flavor, spice and everything nice.
Third Base
“I love you as certain dark things are loved, secretly, between the shadow and the soul.”
Dutch & Company
Intimate and savory.Adarra
Authentically Impressive.Mama Zu
Consistently Confident.Stella’s
Stay for a while goodness.Bistro Bobette
Lovely and Warm.
Second Base
”Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute.”
Cafe Rustika
Cozy Comforts.Nota Bene
Notably Amorous.Secco
Keeping it light.Maple & Pine
Open and Airy.Kuba Kuba
Energetically Vibrant.
Homerun
"Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while."
Brenner Pass
Modern Love.Longoven
Sensory Perception.L’Opossum
Tantalizing Perfection.Lemaire
Faithful Companion.La Grotta
Old World Romance.
Best Places to Meet People
Tinder not working for you? The hive emptying out on Bumble? Sometimes you just want to meet people organically. These are my favorite picks for such casual encounters.
Cask Cafe. Why? Because the bar lends itself to communal conversation and it’s easy to listen without a bunch of loud noise. If things really kick off, you can escape to the back room and have some privacy (it’s not as sexy as it sounds.)
Lemaire at Happy Hour. Why? Because you get to meet travelers from different places and who knows, some hot single celeb may be looking for someone just like you! I mean what better scenery to meet someone.
Quirk Rooftop. Why? Cause it’s pretty and the outdoors is good for you.
Chop Suey or Libraries. Why? Because what a person reads is a good indication that 1. they are literate and 2. Books are a good for conversation
Lowes. Why? Because who doesn’t want a handy person around? I have tons of things to fix!
Penny Lane or Rosie’s on Game Day or a Kicker’s Game. Why? Because people who watch sports tend to be passionate.
Steady Sounds or Plan 9. Why? Because music is everything. We’re actually quite attracted to those who love the same sonics as we do.
VMFA or Any Museum. Why? Because they enjoy beauty and get things that are beneath the layers.
Grocery Stores. Stay out of frozen foods and get into the produce section.
Interactive Dates
Sometimes you need some action in your action. RVA has some fun places for dates you should try out.
Hotel Greene
Signature Cocktails. Wes Anderson-esque setting. Indoor putt putt. What’s not to love!
River City Roll
Good Bites. Nice loungy vibe. Great for “striking” up conversation!
Bingo
Decent Craft Brews. A nice patio. Video Games Galore.
Goochland Drive-In
Still cool and what’s more date like than a drive in movie.
TopGolf or Drive Shack
Nothing says first date like the hitting of balls.
Join the Pinball Collective
High score all day long!
Tang and Biscuit
Group Date! Shuffleboard and Board Games.
Hollywood Cemetery. It’s actually quite romantic with the overlook of the river and the spirits of history. A very nice walk or bike ride indeed.
Colonial Shooting Range
You’d be surprised what a great date this can be.
Karaoke at Lakeside Tavern
Divey and sure to create a memorable moment, sing it loud and proud.
Love Potions
If you’re like me and don’t want to eat on a first date, a good way to get to know someone is to just hang out and have a drink. These places are good for conversation and provide a nice space and good libations. I like a good bar for a first date. Sitting at the bar with a good bartender helps as well, they tend to facilitate conversation and can set a mood. Neighborhood bars are my favorite choices and remember, it doesn’t always have to be an alcoholic bar to be fun.
The Jasper
It’s dark in a good way. The bartenders will impress your date. You can take a walk down Carytown after.
Ninja Kombucha
Cute, neighborhood setting and it’s good for ya!
Union Market
A nice way to sit outside and enjoy each other’s company and plan for your life together in sought after Church Hill.
The Tottering TeaCup
So quaint and a nice hot cup of tea will put you both at ease.
Fuzzy Cactus
It’s fun with great music and affordable drinks and you can play pool!
Heritage
Very nice cocktail menu and a smaller bar and if you’re feeling confident, you can share an app.
The Morning After
Looks like it’s breakfast for two! You like them, you really, really like them. Not ready to say goodbye? Enjoy a nice brunch/breakfast together at these fine establishments and set your next date!
Perly’s
Unique and always delicious.
Brunch
The name says it all.
Bamboo
For that lazy kinda morning.
Joe’s Inn
To soak up all the alcohol with!
Moore Cafe
When you gotta be to work on time.
